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The Beginning of the End of Mass Imprisonment and the Misuse of Prisons as Our De Facto Mental Health Care System

…ves, let alone one as serious as murder). But even a cursory review of the relationship between imprisonment and murder will suffice to show that the theory that the increase in imprisonment led to the decrease in murder is contradicted by the facts. Let me explain. In 1970, when our imprisonment rate was still about 100 per 100,000 Americans, exactly where it had been for the first three quarters of the century, our age-adjusted murder rate was 8…

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Imperfect Parenting: Rupture and Repair

…t of my interactions with my daughter. Many times I feel pleased about our relationship, and how I am with her. Not this morning. As is typically the case, when I’m unsettled with myself, somehow that comes out as being unsettled with her. I’ve been feeling badly about the fact that I haven’t been motivated to write, wasting away my hours reading, scouring sources with nothing of substance to show for it. I have that tendency, to accumulate inform…

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Effective Methods of Treating Depression

…rough meditation and breathing exercises, helps people develop a different relationship with their feelings, allowing them to better regulate and tolerate their emotions. Mindfulness can help people achieve a calm and integrated state, in which they are less likely to be overtaken by their emotions. These practices also allow them to be more present to their here-and-now experience, rather than bemoaning their past or castrophizing about their fut…

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VIDEO: Dr. Allan Schore on the Roots of Suicide and Early Attachment

…been said that nature and nurture first come together in the mother/infant relationship. And as you’re well aware now, all the major psychotherapy models now are coming back to the centrality of this early development. And that’s what I want to talk about. And also we’re seeing another shift now. We’re also seeing a shift, if you will, maybe three decades ago we were into behavior and behavioral models and then it shifted to cognitive models. I th…

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VIDEO: Dr. Allan Schore on Attachment Trauma and Effects of Neglect and Abuse on Brain Development

…But the initial trajectory of the right brain is set up in the attachment relationship. And again, that’s critical because the right brain has more connections into the body, into the autonomic nervous system and into the hypothalamic pituitary axis, which is the stress regulating axis of the body. That is directly impacted by the relationship the infant has with the caregiver. And therefore, the ways that the person will react to stress over the…

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Celebrating Transitions in this Season of Change

…nsition and hating it. Laid off from her job because of downsizing and her relationship on the brink of break up, she was not happy. She was forgetting that she had hated her job and there were lots of things not working for her in her romantic relationship. “Perhaps now you have a chance to realign your life closer to what has true value and meaning for you,” I reminded her gently. “But what about my paycheck? And where am I going to live if I br…

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Video: Dr. John Norcross on the methodology of Psychotherapy – Relationships that Work.

…very psychotherapy, but some of those skills from each of those kinds of groups. JN: Yes. So, the criticism that integration will require us to know everything, in my mind, is really quite bogus. What we really need is a skill set, treatment methods and relationship styles for people in the early stages, and then one in the later stages. So it’s really one from column A, one from column B. We don’t need to be masters of 400+ psychotherapy systems….

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To Heal Trauma, Free Your Most Compassionate Self

…e a trauma survivor and for the survivors themselves to trust in a healing relationship. Healthy attuned relationships open the door to healing. Helping trauma survivors realize they can experience safe, secure, healthy relationships. is one of the main reasons I do the work I do—and why I’m encouraging you to bring the power of compassion with you to every encounter with a trauma survivor. Bringing Compassion to Communicating So often in relation…

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Be Happy Now!

…ss is that it keeps us on hold while we wait for the perfect life/ career/ relationship to show up. Sometimes we’ll take action to get us there, like joining a gym, taking on extra projects at work or giving online dating a go, but still the “happiness” is over there somewhere, just out of reach. Even when we do achieve our goal, we’re quickly rushing on to the next one or something “better,” without pause to reflect and enjoy the milestone we’ve…

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The Difference Between Emotional Hunger and Real Love

…t assumptions, and have significantly improved the quality of their family relationships. Finally, from our studies of family interactions, we have begun to question the quality of the maternal-infant bond or attachment formed in the early hours and days of an infant’s life. As students of human behavior, we feel it is incumbent on us and on developmental psychologists to clarify the extent to which this bond or attachment may be based on emotiona…

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