…they just feeling threatened emotionally? What critical thoughts are they experiencing toward their partners and what critical thoughts are they having toward them selves as a result of these perceived threats to their relationships? By exploring feelings of jealousy and understanding why people react (or overreact) to the things they do, we can learn more about ourselves and limit behaviors that our destructive to our partners… and ultimately ou…
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In 1967, in order to study the relationship between stress and physical health, researchers Thomas Holmes and Richard Rahe examined medical records of more than 5,000 patients. In order to determine whether stressful life events could cause illness, they developed a stress scale or “social readjustment scale” which assigned numerical scores of 1-100 to stressful life events based on how life-altering or consuming the stressor proved to be for the…
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…egivers. These early attachment patterns became models for how we expected relationships to work in our adult lives. Therefore, if we felt rejected, ignored, intruded on, insecure, criticized, resented, or drained in our early life, we tend to seek out relationships that recreate that same emotional climate today. If, as kids, we felt our needs were often ignored or overlooked, we now feel drawn to people who are emotionally unavailable, noncommit…
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…r upbringing. These insecure patterns of attachment formed in our earliest relationships often manifest in insecure adult attachment, which particularly impacts our romantic relationships and parenting style, but also informs how we feel about ourselves. If we want to understand our insecurity more fully on a personal level, we have to be willing to go back into our attachment history, which gives us critical clues into why we think, feel, and ope…
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…w individuals can gain a deeper understanding of anger and transform their relationship with this heated emotion. This Webinar will: Define anger as a basic emotional experience that can provide us with valuable information Discuss how anger can be both a primary emotional experience and a secondary emotion that covers over other more vulnerable emotions Help you understand when your anger is adaptive and when it is maladaptive Describe the downsi…
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…te your partner’s unique traits and the qualities that they brings to your relationship. It encourages you to stop fixating on what should be and acknowledge what is. Becoming aware of the benefits that you have received from your partner will result in you feeling loved and cared about (Emmons & McCullough, 2003). Feelings of intimacy and closeness will be enhanced by your perception of your partner’s responsiveness to your wishes and needs (Algo…
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…hers. Fred Rogers consistently presented the essence of emotionally secure relationships for everyone’s benefit. It’s the kind of relationship we all need to grow and thrive as human beings. Anyone can learn to build secure attachment—and it can be established at any point in one’s life! “Knowing that we can be loved exactly as we are gives us all the best opportunity for growing into the healthiest of people.” –Fred Rogers Post-traumatic Growth i…
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…But it was exactly that which frightened me. So we took the ride that most relationships endure: the usual ups and downs, and in’s and out’s. But it was the out’s that has brought me to where I am today. I began to wonder, why did I need that out? What was I holding out for? What does it mean to be all in? Here was a man I considered to be a good person, considerate of my feelings, kind and generous (a trait he mastered by working on himself which…
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…te the very harsh effects of a breakup on a person’s mental health. When a relationship ends, humiliation, rage, loneliness, anguish and grief all seem to simultaneously show up at the door, marching in arm-in-arm to parade noisily around our psyche. Evicting these emotions is a matter of healing, reconciling, finding peace within ourselves and somehow moving on. The road to recovery is rough, not just because we are struggling with the real loss…
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…of us have found ourselves at one point or the other in the course of past relationships, contorting into our best version of a “bombshell” as we have learned to define it through our partner’s eyes, in order to not lose him. While it made us queasy to play the role, we felt compelled through fear of loss to do it anyway. It is clear that women have to be very careful, because in our essential feminine energy, we can be our own worst enemy. Female…
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