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VIDEO: Dr. Allan Schore on Therapeutic Alliance and Emotional Communication

…relationship, so to speak between the patient and the therapist. But that relationship is not a relationship between two conscious minds, two left hemispheres. Again, that relationship is a subjective relationship, it’s much deeper than that. It’s the same mechanisms that human beings use in intimate contexts. And again, let’s remember with these patients, intimacy is terrifying. Right? It’s strange, it’s foreign, it’s terrifying, etc. So it’s th…

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VIDEO: Dr. John C. Norcross on What Does Not Work in Psychotherapy

…ccess. But those hostile, puerile remarks are really quite damaging to the relationship in treatment. Another discredited behavior is, in the face of ruptures in the alliance, to sort of stick your head in the sand, ignore them and hope they go away. Now I understand why people do this and earlier in my training, lord, I certainly did that. But you see, there’s a tension rupture in the relationship and you decide, “Oh, I don’t want to go there.” A…

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Dr. John Norcross on what does not work in psychotherapy

…ccess. But those hostile, puerile remarks are really quite damaging to the relationship in treatment. Another discredited behavior is, in the face of ruptures in the alliance, to sort of stick your head in the sand, ignore them and hope they go away. Now I understand why people do this and earlier in my training, lord, I certainly did that. But you see, there’s a tension rupture in the relationship and you decide, “Oh, I don’t want to go there.” A…

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The Psychological Effects of Emotional Hunger

…motional hunger differs from love in that the child or other person in the relationship does not feel nurtured as they would by love, but instead, feels drained of vital energy. A child may cling to the parent, because they’re not experiencing a real sense of security or connection. The partner may feel a constant pressure to make their significant other feel good or whole. When a person feels emotional hunger, they often experience it as a need t…

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Why Do We Trigger Each Other in Close Relationships?

…are not that surprising, because nothing triggers us as emotionally as our relationships with other people. And the closer the relationship, the more likely we are to be affected. We may feel set off by each other’s words, tone of voice, or facial expressions. We may read between the lines and infuse all kinds of meaning into our partner’s behavior. But why do we do this? Why do relationships that started off sweet and simple become a hotbed for p…

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When Love is Not Enough: Purpose-Centered Couple Therapy

…couple attitude will also be explored as factors contributing to long-term relationship success. Tatkin will explain why love is not enough to ensure relationship endurance given the ever-present, survival-based nature of the human primate. This course will benefit individuals and couples seeking personal growth as well as professionals interested in Purpose-Centered Couple Therapy. This presentation will answer the following questions: What is a…

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Is My Self-Hatred Getting in the Way of Love?

…u open your mouth, everyone will know how stupid you are. In your intimate relationship, you can recover and maintain your real identity by taking actions will help you align yourself with the positive view that your partner has of you instead of continuing to adhere to your familiar internalized view of yourself. You can plan actions to take that will represent your true identity. You can also identify actions to stop because they represent your…

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Being Vulnerable to Love

…asking for what we want is crucial to maintaining our vulnerability in our relationship. Express and accept affection. When we offer and accept affection in our intimate relationship, we encourage our vulnerability and discourage our controlling defenses. As we participate in the mutual give-and-take of loving exchanges with our partner, neither of us is likely to exert control over the other. When we are freely giving and when we are receptive to…

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6 Reasons Most People Are Afraid of Love

…t fallen in love. If true and lasting love is possible than why do so many relationships fall apart? What gets in the way of maintaining the deep attractions and excitement that people feel early on in a romance? One of the most important answers can be found within. Whether they know it or not, most people are afraid of really being in love. While their fears may manifest themselves in different ways or show themselves at different stages of a re…

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Top 8 Ways to Protect Your Kids Online and Improve Communication in the Family

…st sleep over at anther girl’s house her daughter and her friends got into trouble after 11:00pm with Instagram, Snapchat and texting on their cell phones. She said that she found that most the trouble with social media had been happening after 9:30pm and that she found it best to just take away cell phones after 9:30pm at sleep over’s. This was a great observation and expectation to express I thought. It is now also one of our house rules. If you…

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