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Understanding and Overcoming Relationship Anxiety



In this Webinar: 

While the notion of falling in love can sound blissful, interpersonal relationships almost always challenge us in ways we don’t expect. Relationship anxiety can arise at various points in a relationship from the moment we first start dating to when we decide to make a symbolic commitment, like moving in together or getting married. In large part, this anxiety has to do with our past. Circumstances and dynamics in our closest relationships often trigger old feelings such as insecurity, fear, rejection, or abandonment. They challenge long-held, often negative self-concepts and threaten defenses that made us feel safe early in our lives but actually hurt or limit our current relationships.

In this Webinar, Dr. Lisa Firestone will shed light on why we experience relationship anxiety. Where do our fears come from? She will introduce the concept of attachment theory and explain how our early attachments styles can shape our feelings and actions in our adult relationships. She will further explain the influence of the “critical inner voice,” a negative thought process we internalize early in life based on hurtful attitudes and experiences. This critical inner voice goes on to perpetuate our anxiety by filling our heads with critical, shaming thoughts about ourselves, and even our romantic partner or potential partners.

Dr. Firestone will introduce methods that can help individuals overcome their relationship anxiety by making connections to their past, creating a coherent narrative, and identifying and challenging this destructive inner voice. She will explain how practicing mindfulness and self-compassion are valuable tools to help people cope with the anxiety that comes with change. The Webinar will reveal how, when armed with these introspective tools, individuals can create more secure attachments and enjoy closer, more fulfilling and more enjoyable, loving relationships.

Learning Objectives:

  1. Identify clients’ negative thought patterns/ attitudes that influence relationship anxiety
  2. Discuss a cognitive/affective/behavioral approach for challenging critical inner voices
  3. Describe strategies to help clients tolerate anxiety associated in making changes
  4. Help clients identify their early attachment style.
  5. Recognize how early adaptation patterns shape a client’s attachment style and adult relationships.
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Ordering Information

Once payment is received, you will be e-mailed a full video recording of this Webinar along with all presentation materials.

Optional CEs (2) may be purchased through R. Cassidy Seminars for $15. A link to purchase CE credits will be included in the email containing all your Webinar resources. More Info Here

Continuing Education Information

This event is co-sponsored by R. Cassidy Seminars.  A link to purchase CE credits will be provided to all Webinar registrants.

Satisfactory Completion

Participants must have paid tuition fee, signed in, attended the entire seminar, completed any accompanying reading assignment, completed an evaluation, and signed out in order to receive a certificate. Failure to sign in or out will result in forfeiture of credit for the entire course. No exceptions will be made. Partial credit is not available.


Cassidy Seminars is approved by the American Psychological Association (APA) to offer continuing education for psychologists. R. Cassidy Seminars maintains responsibility for this program.

Social Workers

Cassidy Seminars, ACE provider #1082 is approved as a provider for social work continuing education by the Association of Social Work Boards (ASWB) www.aswb.org, through the Approved Continuing Education (ACE) Program. Approval Period: April 15, 2012-April 15, 2015. R. Cassidy Seminars maintains responsibility for the program. Social workers should contact their regulatory board to determine course approval. Social workers will receive 2 homestudy continuing education (clinical, social work ethics) clock hours in participating in this course.

Please Note: Licensing Boards change regulations often and while we attempt to stay abreast of their most recent changes, if you have questions or concerns about this course meeting your specific board’s approval, we recommend you contact your board directly to obtain a ruling.

Note: Many state boards accept offerings accredited by national or other state organizations. If your state is not listed, please check with your professional licensing board to determine whether the accreditations listed are accepted.

About the Presenter

Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. Dr. Lisa Firestone is the Director of Research and Education at The Glendon Association. An accomplished and much requested lecturer, Dr. Firestone speaks at national and international conferences in the areas of couple relations, parenting, and suicide and violence prevention. Dr. Firestone has published numerous professional articles, and most recently was the co-author of Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships (APA Books, 2006), Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice (New Harbinger, 2002), Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion: The Wisdom of Psychotherapy (APA Books, 2003) and The Self Under Siege (Routledge, 2012). Follow Dr. Firestone on Twitter or Google.

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i have this problem ,,,,, not sure how to deal with it just reading about helped me know that this is a really feeling that i bring on myself ……thx for the info

Angaihi Hmar

I have experienced this anxiety problem a few weeks ago. And now were breaking up. Is there any way i can fix the relationship?

Carol Camarillo

Yes explain this to him. Get help and ask him to be patient and back off a bit but not completely. FOLLOW THROUGH


Have been hurt before…. And now am in a relationship and the anxiety is killing me… How can I deal with it

Precious Joy Balaba

I have been relationship with a man for 5 months and his a muslim and im non-muslim.Despite we had differences but we still respect each other he also accept me for who I am and completely accept me even I have a daughter.Were comfortable each other but sometimes I can’t even control myself to think negative about him when he couldn’t able to answer my call and respond my message immediately.For few days I felt uncertain things happen in our relationship lack of trust with him and felt anxious so many things tend to our relationship.How can I able to overcome this kind of feelings I’m overthinking acting paranoid lately.


i feel like i lost myself, and my boyfriend. i still love him, but i guess in a way, i feel like i lost interest, but i haven’t. i still cry from the thought of losing him. i mention him in my prayers. i’ve been dwelling on the past a lot, and i hate thinking about my ex. lately, i’ve been really jealous, and i’ve been feeling fear of losing him. i really really love him! my boyfriend is not a big fan of the jealousy i acquire. he gets really fed up with how i act, and that just aggravates the feeling of him falling out of love with me. (i assume) he always says he’s not losing interest, but i find that hard to believe. i’m just so annoying, and i’m mentally exhausted. i’m telling myself i won’t give up. i really don’t want to lose him. i want to keep him. i just need help, please.


I have this kind of problems too, but I don’t really kmow how to overcome it.What I do


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