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Cynical About Relationships: Is Cynicism Ruining Your Love Life?

…ynical attitude is what my father Dr. Robert Firestone calls our “critical inner voice.” The critical inner voice describes a negative thought process we all experience to different degrees that harshly criticizes us and others. For many of us, this voice gets loudest when it comes to our romantic life. Our critical inner voices can act as a barrier to getting close to someone else. Like the world’s worst matchmaker, it tends to feed us a steady s…

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Making Love Last by Learning to Love

…right. 4) Fire the Coach in Your Head All of us are plagued by a critical inner voice, which provides an inner dialogue of destructive thoughts toward ourselves and others. These “voices” not only do damage to our confidence and self-esteem, they also wreak havoc on our intimate relationships. Through negative coaching, our critical inner voice encourages our defenses and diminishes our trust in others. Sometimes these thoughts come in the form o…

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7 Ways Your Childhood Affects How You Parent

…our children. Even though what happened to us in childhood shows up in our parenting, this doesn’t mean we are doomed to repeat the mistakes of our parents. In fact, no matter what distress or even trauma we endured in early life, what matters most is how much we’ve been able to feel the full pain of our childhood and create a coherent narrative of our experience. By processing what happened to us, we are better able to relate to our own kids and…

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The Divided Self: Rejecting Your Inner Enemy and Reclaiming Your Real Self

…self-critical, and even self-destructive. This 90-minute webinar with Dr. Lisa Firestone will explore the roots of this division and the psychological impact it has on a person’s life. In her illuminating presentation, Dr. Firestone will explore why people turn against themselves. What holds them back from being who they really are and accomplishing what they seek to accomplish? She will introduce a concept known as the “Division of the Mind” to…

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VIDEO: Interview Series with Dr. Christine Courtois

…ood trauma, complex trauma, the critical inner voice, violence, incest and parenting. YouTube responded with an error: The playlist identified with the request’s <code>playlistId</code> parameter cannot be found. Order the Full DVD Interview: Attachment, Trauma and Dissociation In this DVD, Dr. Christine Courtois draws upon her expertise in the field of trauma to discuss a variety of trauma related topics. She begins by talking about her work…

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5 Excuses to Stop Making About Sex

…have found that there are countless, common negative thoughts or “critical inner voices” that cloud that minds of men and women when they have sex. This can be a great distraction during sex. It can even prevent couples from being sexual in the first place. It is important not to let your critical inner voice dictate any part of your life and certainly not rob you of intimacy with your partner. When that coach inside your head is critiquing your a…

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How to Beat the 5 Types of Boredom that Arise in Relationships

…relationship, or your life in general. You may be listening to a “critical inner voice” that operates like a mean coach inside your head, insulting and undermining you. This “voice” also tends to target people close to you. Naturally, there are times you have real complaints about your partner or your circumstances, but the critical inner voice tends to nitpick, exaggerate, and distort in ways that ruin your mood and negatively color your point of…

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Critical Inner Voice

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Overcoming the Real Pain of Break Ups, Affairs and Rejections

…chologist and theorist Dr. Robert W. Firestone, refers to as the “critical inner voice” to be the chief culprit in making break ups and affairs a matter of humiliation. While one would never think badly of a friend (or film star) who had been hurt by a significant other, rarely do people maintain the same standards for themselves. Instead, when they are hurt, they start to have harsh attacking thoughts toward themselves (critical inner voices) tha…

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A Way Out of Loneliness

…tionally deadened way of being and living.” In this 90-minute Webinar, Dr. Lisa Firestone will explore how a person’s defenses and their critical inner voice perpetuate their feelings of alienation. She will examine the true roots of loneliness. Why do people turn against themselves? How can they overcome the self-critical thoughts and self-sabotaging behaviors that perpetuate the cycle of solitude? In her Webinar, Dr. Firestone will explain how i…

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