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Real Love or a Fantasy Bond: The Appeal of the Twilight Saga

…enges that arise with real love is form what my father psychologist Robert Firestone termed a “Fantasy Bond.” The fantasy bond is a connection built out of fears from danger and even from death that we often experience at an unconscious level. This bond substitutes real feelings of love, respect, and spontaneity with an illusion of connection, a focus on form over substance, and a false sense of security and completion by another person. When we f…

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"I Do Until I Don’t" The Truth Behind Celebrity Marriage

…hen couples lose intimacy and emotional connections. According to Dr. Lisa Firestone, many couples maintain a fantasy bond in their relationships. This bond is an illusion of closeness and connection, but it is a fantasy version of love. In this way, couples preserve an imagination of love while keeping emotional distance from each other. This bond typically develops as couples fall out of love, yet they protect themselves by maintaining an illusi…

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Fantasy Bond, Intimacy problems, relationship advice

Why the Spark Fades in a Relationship

…sychological theory developed by my father, psychologist and author Robert Firestone, the “fantasy bond” describes a way of relating that serves as a substitute for a truly loving relationship As my father has written of the fantasy bond, “This illusion of connection and closeness allows [a couple] to maintain an imagination of love and loving, while preserving emotional distance.” As one woman who was going through a divorce after six years of ma…

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personal sexuality, sexual identity, psychalive

Achieving Sexual Intimacy

…Dr. Lisa Firestone on Achieving Intimacy…

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The Fantasy Bond, fear of intimacy, psychalive, the glendon association

What is a Fantasy Bond?

…Dr. Robert Firestone on The Fantasy Bond…

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Breaking Free from Addiction

…herapeutic approach developed by my father, psychologist and author Robert Firestone, therapists help clients pinpoint environmental triggers that precipitate the painful emotions and negative thought patterns, which, in turn, influence them to engage in addictive behaviors. By further encouraging the pursuit of genuine wants, desires, and goals, therapists strengthen clients’ real selves, a process that enables them to achieve freedom from addict…

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Dr. Sheldon Solomon Discusses the Makings of An Ideal Society: Exclusive Interview

…following transcript contains part of an exclusive interview with Dr. Lisa Firestone and Dr. Sheldon Solomon. Sheldon Solomon describes the elements of an ideal society. SS:And so here, if I recall accurately, we talk about three things: borrowing heavily from Becker, where he said, “OK, first and foremost, is, you know, does the culture provide for the material needs of its constituents, given its current level of technology and access to natural…

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Dr. Sheldon Solomon on the Current Philosophical Climate in the United States: Exclusive Interview

…following transcript contains part of an exclusive interview with Dr. Lisa Firestone and Dr. Sheldon Solomon. Current Philosophical Climate in the United States SS: “Philosophical principles that now prevail in our country are literally based on assumptions that are just unambiguously incorrect.” …Locke said that people vary in ability. He called it industry. He said that different people are more or less industrious. So it’s natural that some peo…

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death anxiety, death awareness, psychalive, Dr Sheldon Solomon

Creating Meaning by Facing Our Mortality

…Conversely, both Dr. Solomon and my father, psychologist and author Robert Firestone, argue that when death awareness isn’t denied, but recognized, we can use it to promote peace and compassion. The idea that, as humans, we are all in the same boat (“all be it a sinking boat,” as Dr. Solomon points out) promotes a sense of equality and togetherness. The acknowledgement that our physical selves share the same fate, and that we all hold the same fea…

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Dr. Sheldon Solomon on Sexuality and Death Awareness: Exclusive Interview

…following transcript contains part of an exclusive interview with Dr. Lisa Firestone and Dr. Sheldon Solomon. Sheldon Solomon talks about sexuality and death awareness. LF You know, you’ve written some, too, about how our feelings about death affect how we feel about our bodies and really, you know, sort of the problem with sex and how that makes that a reality. And I wonder if you could talk a little bit about that. SS Actually, I wish we had Jam…

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