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Is My Self-Hatred Getting in the Way of Love?

…the familial environment in which our self-image was formed. The critical inner voice and its disparaging views reinforce a negative identity. The voice continues to support the negative ways in which you were seen as a child. For example, if you were labeled the “irresponsible” one, your critical inner voice may say, You won’t amount to anything. You mess up every opportunity that comes your way. If you were the “chubby” one, your critical inner…

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How to Stop Feeling Triggered by Your Partner

…red by our partner is that our own personal history as well as a “critical inner voice” in our heads is impacting what triggered us and why. While exploring these early influences can change how we feel and interact in our relationships, there are also strategies we can adopt here and now to help us when we get stirred up by our partner. No matter what we feel in a given moment, we can learn to react in healthier ways that don’t do lasting damage…

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Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice: An Adjunct to Clinical Practice

…our true wants, desires and goals) and a critical, coaxing and destructive inner voice that can sabotage, diminish, or undermine us. Psychologist and author Dr. Robert Firestone often refers to this internal enemy as an “anti-self” or “critical inner voice.” Learning to deal effectively with the “critical inner voice” is central to all areas of life: personal development, healthy relationships, self-esteem, and career success. This CE Webinar prov…

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How to Deal with Rejection

How to Deal with Rejection

…t by the filter through which we view what happens to us. Dr.’s Robert and Lisa Firestone have both written extensively about the role of a person’s “critical inner voice” in coloring the way they see the world. Like a mean coach living inside our heads, this inner critic is designed to critique, undermine, and sabotage us. Just as positive, nurturing experiences help us form a healthy sense of self that’s “on our side” so to speak, our “critical…

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Dr. Lisa Firestone Phd, Lisa Firestone, Psychalive, The Glendon Association

Dr. Lisa Firestone Parenting Articles

…exciting and scary time in the lives of many expectant parents.   The Over-Parenting Syndrome Recently several best-selling books as well as a number of child development experts have focused their attention on the growing trend of “helicopter parenting” and have described its negative effects on children and adolescents. These writers point out how parents’ tendencies to hover and overprotect their kids are destroying children’s initiative and ma…

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A New Way to Say Goodbye to Stress

…high, we often set ourselves up to later become a target for our critical inner voice. We start to have self-critical thoughts like: What is wrong with you? You never give 100 percent to anything. Can’t you just get one thing right? You’re such a failure! Even when times are tough or the pressure being placed on us is external, we can seek out an inner sense of calm by quieting those inner voices that exacerbate the problem. This is not meant to…

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The Inner Voice in Self-Destructive Behavior and Suicide

…(1994) observed that the pull toward suicide “often comes in the form of a voice…This voice grows in volume with the stress of the suicidal ordeal. It demands increasingly to be heard above everything else, and it begins to occupy a greater part of the person’s psyche until it smothers more reasonable voices altogether” (p. 74). The Continuum of Self-Destructive Thoughts and Behaviors The voice process exists along a continuum of intensity, rangin…

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…expert Dr. Lisa Firestone explains the difference between real love… Dr. Lisa Firestone on Jealousy in Relationships Relationship expert Dr. Lisa Firestone talks about understanding and challenging… How to Keep the Spark Alive in a Relationship Relationship expert Dr. Lisa Firestone explains how couples can keep the spark a… The Critical Inner Voice in Relationships Dr. Lisa Firestone explains how the critical inner voice operates in relatio…

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3 Ways to Tell You’re Afraid of Intimacy

…r partner is often the result of our fears around closeness. The “critical inner voice” is the language of our defense system, an internal dialogue that tears us down and often leads us to self-limiting behavior. This “voice” can also focus on our partner. “He’s always so distracted. He’s clearly bored by you,” it may say. “She never cleans up after herself even though you’ve asked her to. She obviously doesn’t care about how you feel,” it may chi…

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Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice

Robert W. Firestone Ph.D., Lisa Firestone Ph.D. and Joyce Catlett, M.A. – A Revolutionary Program to Counter Negative Thoughts and Live Free from Imagined Limitations. – This book teaches the means for dealing effectively with negative thoughts, attitudes and beliefs that act as barriers to one’s personal development, sabotage relationships and interfere with career success. This destructive thought process is what authors Robert W. Firestone, Ph…

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