…ok for signs we are engaging in a fantasy bond and actively seek to interrupt these patterns. Click here to read Dr. Epstein’s article “Can You Learn to Love Anyone?” Watch psychologist Dr. Lisa Firestone discuss “The Qualities of an Ideal Relationship”: Watch psychologist Dr. Lisa Firestone discuss “Why We Keep Making the Same Bad Choices”:…
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…We asked relationship expert Dr. Lisa Firestone for her advice on everything from how to make love last to how to get over a devastating break-up. Watch her answers below. YouTube responded with an error: The playlist identified with the request’s <code>playlistId</code> parameter cannot be found….
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…te to a partner who’s simply offering feedback. All of us have a “critical inner voice” that’s formed from negative attitudes and interactions in our development. This “voice” is like a cruel internal coach that interprets the world around us, and it can get a lot louder when we’re triggered emotionally. It’s also particularly active when it comes to our closest relationships. It can exacerbate and exaggerate situations, which intensifies our resp…
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…thing, when we have kids, we often start to see ourselves in the role of “parents,” which may not include acting like a couple in love. We may start to behave in ways we saw our parents behaving, imitating their patterns or creating a distance from our partner that we observed in their relationship. It’s not healthy to give up our own interests or our sexuality when we have kids. Our children thrive when they’re able to observe us as vibrant and f…
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…arisons with someone you share life with can be the work of your “critical inner voice,” an internal commentary that tends to undermine you and your relationship. The person it takes the biggest toll on is you, and it can get in the way of your own loving feelings for your partner. Your critical inner voice can always find things that your partner could be doing more of, but you’re the only one you have control over in your relationship. When you…
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…toward ourselves,” said Firestone. She describes how a person’s “critical inner voice” can flood his or her mind with harmful suspicions and accusations that fuel feelings of jealousy. She frequently finds that what people are telling themselves about what’s going on with their partner is often a lot worse than what is actually going on. For example, a person may think, “She is totally checking out that guy. She’s losing interest in me. She’s goi…
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…but actually hurt or limit our current relationships. In this Webinar, Dr. Lisa Firestone will shed light on why we experience relationship anxiety. Where do our fears come from? She will introduce the concept of attachment theory and explain how our early attachment patterns can shape our feelings and actions in our adult relationships. She will further explain the influence of the “critical inner voice,” a negative thought process we internalize…
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…eliefs as well as the feelings behind those thoughts. In this Webinar, Dr. Lisa Firestone will introduce an empowering approach to treating depression, while highlighting specific actions individuals can take that have been shown to reduce symptoms of depression. She will discuss a method in which therapists can help clients identify a destructive line of thinking known as the “critical inner voice” that can perpetuate a cycle of depression. When…
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…intaining a negative image of themselves – Many people develop a “critical inner voice,” a negative thought process, which, like an internal parent, coaches, critiques, and comments on them, as they live our lives, i.e. “I’ve always been too much for other people to handle. No one could love me.” Projecting negative parental qualities and behaviors onto others – Without realizing it, we can project qualities of our parents onto the people we get c…
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…wn a path in which they feel more isolated. In this 90-minute Webinar, Dr. Lisa Firestone will examine the true roots of loneliness. She will explore how a person’s defenses and their critical inner voice perpetuate feelings of alienation. Why do people turn against themselves? How can they overcome the self-critical thoughts and self-sabotaging behaviors that perpetuate the cycle of solitude? Participants will learn valuable tools to identify and…
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