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  • How Childhood Defenses Hurt Us As Adults

    It is ironic that the very defenses that saved us emotionally so long ago are now robbing us of our lives today. What originally served as a reasonable adaptation to a difficult situation can become our imprisoning agent.

  • Understanding Defenses

    Many of us are defended against feeling and to understand why, we have to go back to when we first developed our defenses.

  • Self-Limiting Behaviors

    How is it that we can be acting against our own interests? Why are we sabotaging our chances of realizing our dreams? Can it be that we don’t want what we say we want? Can it be that we don’t want our dreams to come true? Yes, it can.

  • How to Stop Being a Victim

    Challenging negative voices is the way to overcome a victimized orientation.

There are many traits we developed as children that served a purpose in our childhood but actually hinder us in adulthood. As kids, we may have armed ourselves against hurtful influences by keeping to ourselves, rebelling against restraints, or engaging in self-soothing behaviors. These characteristics may have served as survival mechanisms or “defenses” in our youth. Yet, these same defenses that protected us as kids can hurt in adulthood. The adaptations we made to once painful events may lead to some of our most destructive habits as adults. Our defenses can keep us from taking chances, getting close to someone, or achieving success. Learn more about what your defenses might be, where they came from, how they influence you, and how you can challenge them in your life today.

You Don’t Really Want to Get Better

Of course psychotherapy clients want relief from their symptoms, depression, anxiety, and other painful emotions. But at the same time, they don’t want to change the fundamental defenses that would then allow them to develop and overcome their psychological maladies. Most people fear a basic change in ...

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The Simple Truth about Anger

Feeling angry is a universal human phenomenon. It is as basic as feeling hungry, lonely, loving, or tired. -Theodore Rubin “A thought murder a day keeps the doctor away.”  What this quote emphasizes is that feeling one’s angry thoughts is ...

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Helping Clients Stop Self-Sabotaging

A CE Webinar with Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. – Every person has a destructive inner voice that often sabotages our goals. This inner critic judges our every action and instructs us on how to live our lives. It encourages us to act in ...

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Invisible Child Abuse

A compelling program that sheds light on patterns of emotional child abuse that have been largely neglected in our focus on physical and sexual abuse. Throughout the program, the participants reveal that despite their successes, they continue to treat themselves ...

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Defenses Against Death Anxiety

This program illustrates the primary dimensions of each person’s existential dilemma, including the tendency to gradually accommodate to death anxiety by giving up one’s life prematurely. Self-destructive lifestyles, addictive patterns and attachments, vanity, and a sense of omnipotence also help ...

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Life, Death, & Denial

Life, Death, and Denial was filmed during a series of seminars on the subject of death anxiety. The participants in the discussion describe their reactions as children when they first learned about death. In addition, they explore their responses to ...

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Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice

by Robert W. Firestone, Ph.D., Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. Joyce Catlett, M.A. Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice: A Revolutionary Program to Counter Negative Thoughts and Live Free From Imagined Limitations  offers means for dealing effectively with negative thoughts, attitudes, and beliefs ...

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