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There are many traits we developed as children that served a purpose in our childhood but actually hinder us in adulthood. As kids, we may have armed ourselves against hurtful influences by keeping to ourselves, rebelling against restraints, or engaging in self-soothing behaviors. These characteristics may have served as survival mechanisms or “defenses” in our youth. Yet, these same defenses that protected us as kids can hurt in adulthood. The adaptations we made to once painful events may lead to some of our most destructive habits as adults. Our defenses can keep us from taking chances, getting close to someone, or achieving success. Learn more about what your defenses might be, where they came from, how they influence you, and how you can challenge them in your life today.

The Simple Truth about Anger

truth about anger

Feeling angry is a universal human phenomenon. It is as basic as feeling hungry, lonely, loving, or tired. -Theodore Rubin “A thought murder a day keeps the doctor away.”  What this quote emphasizes is that feeling one’s angry thoughts is ...

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Helping Clients Stop Self-Sabotaging


CE Webinar Presenter: Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. 3 CE Credits – $35 90 Minutes * Earn 3 CE Credits watching the Webinar and completing an accompanying reading assignment. Every person has a destructive inner voice that often sabotages our goals. This ...

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How to Improve Your Relationship


Presenter: Dr. Lisa Firestone 60 Minutes What prevents most people from being able to sustain romantic, meaningful relationships that satisfy their needs and desires? Why do people often feel compelled to punish those closest to them? What qualities should a ...

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Invisible Child Abuse


A compelling program that sheds light on patterns of emotional child abuse that have been largely neglected in our focus on physical and sexual abuse. Throughout the program, the participants reveal that despite their successes, they continue to treat themselves ...

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Defenses Against Death Anxiety


This program illustrates the primary dimensions of each person’s existential dilemma, including the tendency to gradually accommodate to death anxiety by giving up one’s life prematurely. Self-destructive lifestyles, addictive patterns and attachments, vanity, and a sense of omnipotence also help ...

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Life, Death, & Denial


Life, Death, and Denial was filmed during a series of seminars on the subject of death anxiety. The participants in the discussion describe their reactions as children when they first learned about death. In addition, they explore their responses to ...

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Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice

Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice

by Robert W. Firestone, Ph.D., Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. Joyce Catlett, M.A. Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice: A Revolutionary Program to Counter Negative Thoughts and Live Free From Imagined Limitations  offers means for dealing effectively with negative thoughts, attitudes, and beliefs ...

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