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Dynamics of Suicide: An Interview with Dr. Israel Orbach

…several international awards for his contribution to the understanding of suicide. Dr. Orbach is remembered for both his scholarly contributions to the field of psychology and suicidology, as well as his unique ability to empathize and help individuals in suicidal crisis. In this DVD, Dr. Israel Orbach discusses the dynamics of suicide and how to both understand and treat suicidal individuals. He begins by addressing suicidality in children and a…

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Loving a Trauma Survivor: Understanding Childhood Trauma’s Impact On Relationships

…n to anyone! Don’t dwell on how you feel, just move along! These ideas may help a person cope when they hurt so badly every day and just need to survive. But they do not help the emerging adult make sense of their inner world or learn how to grow and relate to others. Even if the survivor finds a safe, loving partner later in life, the self-limiting scripts stay with them. They cannot just easily toss them and start over. These life lessons are al…

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Recovering from the Trauma of this Past Year

…se, ask yourself: what purpose does this behavior serve? These adaptations helped a person cope at some point in their past and are still serving that purpose in the present. Realizing that adaptations to trauma are survival mechanisms will help you to make sense of them and also to have compassion for the “survivor.” Mental reactions to trauma: reduced concentration and memory intrusive thoughts about the event repeatedly playing parts of the eve…

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The Importance of Psychological First Aid in Japan

…sleep or someone to help them locate their family. Do whatever you can to help this person meet their needs, and try to remain calm and attentive in doing so. Teach Psychological First Aid. It’s important that people not only practice techniques of PFA, but that they teach local citizens in a community how to do it. This will allow the effects to be maintained long after the emergency teams have moved on. In my local community of Santa Barbara, C…

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The Deadly Recession: Dangers of a Down Economy

…rnational readers can click here for a list of helplines and crisis centers around the world. Learn about upcoming free and CE Webinars with Dr. Lisa Firestone on suicide and violence prevention.  …

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How to Deal with Rejection

How to Deal with Rejection

…t by the filter through which we view what happens to us. Dr.’s Robert and Lisa Firestone have both written extensively about the role of a person’s “critical inner voice” in coloring the way they see the world. Like a mean coach living inside our heads, this inner critic is designed to critique, undermine, and sabotage us. Just as positive, nurturing experiences help us form a healthy sense of self that’s “on our side” so to speak, our “critical…

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Passionate Love: What is the “spark” and how can we keep it alive?

…tion to how well our relationships progress to, sadly, how they end,” said Dr. Lisa Firestone. “That is why recognizing our attachment pattern can help us understand our strengths and vulnerabilities in a relationship… When there is a secure attachment pattern, a person is confident and self-possessed and is able to easily interact with others. However, when there is an anxious or avoidant attachment pattern, and a person picks a partner who fits…

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Accepting “Good Enough” Friends and Partners

…ithout using language that victimizes us or blames and demonizes the other person. We can then invite the other person to do the same. We can even make the decision to unilaterally disarm, saying things like, “I care more about being close to you than I do about winning this fight.” Being the first person willing to be vulnerable is an act of strength, and it usually leads to a better outcome and response from the other person. 3. Be Aware of Magn…

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Insight into the Violent Mind

…s. Historically, in studying the voices associated with suicidal ideology, Lisa Firestone, PhD and I developed a scale to predict the potential for suicide. Items were based on a series of increasingly negative self-critical thoughts and self-attacks. Clients were asked to endorse which items they experienced and how frequently. The scale effectively distinguishes suicidal from non-suicidal individuals at a high level of significance. We applied t…

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Commitment Issues: Why Some People Have Them and Others Don’t

…ship can also help us to earn a more secure attachment style. According to Dr. Lisa Firestone, “One of the proven ways to change our attachment style is by forming an attachment with someone who had a more secure attachment style than what we’ve experienced. We can also talk to a therapist, as the therapeutic relationship can help create a more secure attachment. We can continue to get to know ourselves through understanding our past experiences,…

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