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VIDEO: Dr. James Garbarino on Connection Between Violent Men and Childhood Trauma

…onsciousness about that wounded child. And the anger of that child and the fear of that child. And now, in a big body, they’re doing things on behalf of that child without even having an awareness of it. And sometimes, it’s almost hard to believe how unaware they are. I mean, one example is a guy I was interviewing who had murdered a police officer. And like a lot of these guys, he had been abandoned by his mother as a child. And, you know, you ca…

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VIDEO: Dr. James Garbarino Talks About the Impact of the Secrecy that is Common Among Adolescent Girls in our Society

…ess to is disclosure and this ability to tell what’s happening without the fear that you will lose your parents’ love and you will be rejected. That, I think, is the central dynamic that could be preventive and in many cases, obviously, isn’t. It’s going to be very hard to get around that to the other girls because there’s this big elephant, the gorilla in the middle of the room, that, if you’re not dealing with that, it’s very inefficient to do o…

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VIDEO: Dr. Allan Schore on the Physiological Impact of Dissociation

…egins. And these are hyper-arousal, which would be high amounts of extreme fear, terror, aggression, etc. And then we know that at a certain point in time that that is so overwhelming that ultimately the mechanism within the lower brain will just shut that down, so to speak, because the infant is overwhelmed beyond its own coping capacities and suddenly, the infant will dissociate. The infant now is literally gone and it’s moving then from hyper-a…

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Emotional, Physical, or Cyber: Bullying Hurts

…ied tend to keep the abuse a secret, because of shame and embarrassment or fear of further pain they may suffer as a result of speaking out; thus, the bullying persists. If you are concerned that a child, friend, or family member is being subjected to this treatment there are common warning signs to watch for. It is important to pay attention to the child’s unexplainable injuries, lost items, frequent headaches or stomachaches, self-destructive be…

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It’s Not Necessarily ADHD

…ar bored or distracted, anxious children are actually too preoccupied with fears and worries to participate in activities and stay on task. Instead, their minds are elsewhere and lost in their worrisome thoughts, which can negatively affect their academic performance. ñ Timmy spends an inordinate amount of time on assignments, and always needs extra time to complete assignments and tests. He is forgetful, and has problems copying off the board, si…

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Exploring the Underlying Emotions Behind Weight Loss and Weight Gain

…er relationships. She explored the isolation she maintained because of the fear of others’ judgment. How food had become her drug was also explored: Both overeating and undereating were ways she used to stuff her pain or disconnect from it. I had so much respect for Rose’s courage and willingness to explore herself at this level. Although Rose was getting a lot out of individual therapy, I encouraged her to also look for a group to join and maybe…

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VIDEO: Dr. Allan Schore on the Psycho-Biological Nature of Suicidality

…e, that’s problematic because the right amygdule is essentially the threat/fear/danger center of the brain. And when dis-regulated, it will drive intensely negative affects as we see here. So essentially, you’re looking at a person who does not have the opportunity to use the higher four centers of the brain, the higher centers of the right frontal areas, to regulate their own states. And the reason for that again is because of their immature matu…

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One Surprising Reason We Sabotage Love

…e felt close to her partner, she would start to experience an overwhelming fear that he was cheating on her. While her boyfriend seemed honest and trustworthy, she’d drive herself crazy wondering where he was and who he might be with. She found herself feeling desperate toward him, calling, texting and “checking in” at all hours. The more insecure she became, the more her boyfriend would clam up and become distant, which would exacerbate her fears…

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Social Anxiety vs. Shyness: The Difference Between Social Anxiety and Shyness

…mponent is the “performance” condition. Social anxiety sufferers intensely fear being rejected, criticized, judged, or simply perceived unfavorably when having to perform. Although these presumed negative consequences can occur in “social” situations, not all social environments require you to “perform”. Thus, an individual with SAD can be socially sophisticated until s/he imagines the possibility of being disapproved while having to perform (e.g….

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Memorial Day: An Opportunity to Reach Out to Veterans

…e third time. This leaves them into a state of hyper-vigilance, a state of fear and distrust that persists beyond deployment. After facing constant stress and threat to their lives, how then do they psychologically re-adapt to a safe environment? A feeling of isolation is another strong factor contributing to increased suicide risk. The uniquely traumatic events veterans experience can leave them feeling distanced from the families and friends the…

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