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VIDEO: Dr. Allan Schore on Attachment Trauma and Effects of Neglect and Abuse on Brain Development

…r areas of the right brains are more (in) efficient (sic) because in their critical periods, there’s not an optimal situation for their wiring. So I’ve looked very carefully at the effects of relational trauma, to use the term “relational trauma,” also called “attachment trauma.” These are not traumas with the physical environment. These are where the stressor comes from the haven of safety herself. What if the haven of safety, the primary caregiv…

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VIDEO: Dr. Kirk Schneider on How to Experience Life More Fully

…in nature or maybe some time in one’s room, meditating could certainly be critical to that. Travelling, if one has the chance, if one has the chance to do that, keeping a diary of one’s reflections about life could be part of it. Basically dropping some of the routines that have been bogging that person down in life. At the end of Awakening to Awe, I kind of collated critical themes, or I call them lenses, that helped people to cultivate that sen…

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VIDEO: Dr. Allan Schore on the Role of Non-Verbal Communication in Treating Suicidal Patients

…comfortable in the body with them, etc. So positive emotions also would be critical pieces here to boot. But ultimately, in my work, in my understanding, I think that the most difficult affects to hold on to in the counter transference are hopelessness and helplessness. You know, there’s an easy, “Well, you can do this or that or the other thing.” But that’s been this person’s life. This person’s life has been into severe dis-regulation and then y…

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The Simple Truth about Anger

…hat anger is a healthy emotion, and it is ideal to feel the emotion fully. Critical, vicious thoughts and attitudes are entirely acceptable, morally speaking, whereas actions must be judged on moral grounds, and even a sarcastic or superior tone or an insensitive act can be considered hurtful. In The Ethics of Interpersonal Relationships, I emphasize that it is essential, in terms of our mental health and well-being, to give all of our feelings fr…

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VIDEO: Dr. Peter Levine on Working Through a Personal Traumatic Experience

…ot about the presence that the analyst, the therapist, brings to bear as a critical component, maybe even thecritical component in what happens in the person’s healing. So, you know, there’s a Motown song, it goes something like, “It takes one to stand in the dark alone, it takes two to let the light shine through.” A number of my students have taken this work and developed it in ways that people use it in their own communities so that when there’…

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7 Reasons Most People are Afraid of Love

…of happiness. This coach is shaped from painful childhood experiences and critical attitudes we were exposed to early in life as well as feelings our parents had about themselves. While these attitudes can be hurtful, over time, they have become engrained in us. As adults, we may fail to see them as an enemy, instead accepting their destructive point of view as our own. These critical thoughts or “inner voices” are often harmful and unpleasant, b…

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Effective Methods of Treating Depression

…e, Ph.D. The five steps of Voice Therapy target a person’s inner critic or critical inner voice. This “voice” represents a vicious anti-self that is formed out of negative early life experiences. The anti-self can fuel depression, leading people to experience a cycle of self-criticism and a feeling of worthlessness. The steps of Voice Therapy, involve: Step I: The person identifies the content of his or her negative thought process. He or she is t…

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Why You Should Be the One Who Loves More

…etting what we want. As we get close to someone, we must not listen to the critical inner voice that warns us not to “be a sucker” or “love too much.” This doesn’t mean choosing someone who doesn’t love us at all or staying with someone who mistreats us. Rather, the goal is to develop into a giving person, a loving person. It’s a worthy pursuit to learn to do extra things and go the extra mile to show love. Here are five tips on how to be more lov…

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Coping With Anxiety

…al Inner Voice Whatever struggles or worries we have about our lives, our “critical inner voice” is always there to turn up the volume. The critical inner voice is a destructive thought process; it operates like a distorted coach inside our heads that spooks us by offering the worst case scenario, putting us down, and fueling us with poor advice. It tells us we won’t accomplish anything. It reminds us that our worries are too big to manage. It enc…

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Are You Single for the Right Reasons?

…hip. Many single men and women feel so overwhelmed by insecurities or self-critical attitudes that they find it hard to even lift their head and look at a person they find attractive. These thoughts make up what my father psychologist Robert Firestone refers to as the “critical inner voice.” This voice is like a commentator in our heads judging our every action. When we look in the mirror, it may start in with, “You’re so unattractive. Look how ou…

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