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Do You or Your Partner Have an Anxious Attachment?

…he online workshop, “Developing Secure Attachment.” In order to build more inner security, we have to understand our own attachment history and where our models for relationships come from. With this understanding, we can develop a coherent narrative of our early experiences that will give us insight into how we relate today. It can also be helpful to build relationships with people who have a more secure attachment style than our own. If we hang…

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How Your Attachment Pattern Influences Your Life

…their partner when they themselves feel distressed. The person’s sense of inner security usually comes from having experienced a secure attachment as a child to a primary care taker. Children who develop a secure pattern are able to experience their parents or primary caretakers as a safe and solid base from which they can venture out and explore the world. As an adult, they can similarly feel secure and connected to their partner, while allowing…

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Why Can’t You Move on From Your Relationship?

…o fix it and feel better. This feeling is often magnified by the “critical inner voices” that they experience. They may have thoughts like “You are nothing without your partner.” “Now you will never be loved.” “You can’t stand this.” “You better get them back, no matter what you have to do.” In the cross-sectional study mentioned above it was found that “anxiously attached individuals may attempt to resolve the substantial self-concept impairment…

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How to Help Yourself if You’re on a Waiting List for Therapy

…o approach each day with the intention of being kind to yourself. Approach inner criticism with nurturing and compassion.Have curiosity — what is that voice or part trying to protect you from? Perhaps you can get to know these parts of yourself in a way that’s more gentle. Another healthy way to deal with negative self-talk? Eliminate the word “should” from your vocabulary. Reduce isolation. If you are isolated or feeling lonely, consider some way…

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How Mindfulness Can Save Your Relationship

…ar with our mind. Ultimately, it allows us to recognize the many “critical inner voices” that, without us even knowing it, we would typically allow to rule our lives. As we get to know these “voices,” we can start to act against them, not permitting them to color our perceptions of ourselves or our partner. When we know ourselves, we become stronger in our relationships. As mindfulness expert Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn notes, mindfulness is about paying a…

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How to Handle Feeling Wronged By Your Partner

…f much of the anxiety she had about her husband’s travel and gave her more inner security. 5. Think about your ultimate goal. When trying to resolve a conflict, many couples find themselves going around and around in circles. If one person is always blaming and unwilling to forgive the other, it can leave little hope for returning to an equal and loving way of relating. In these times, it’s helpful to remember that we have 100 percent control over…

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Understanding Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment 

…w you behave)? Techniques to break free from negative cycles, develop more inner security, and achieve closer, more fulfilling relationships Tools to enhance tolerance for emotional closeness Learning Objectives: List the common characteristics of a Dismissive-Avoidant attachment pattern Demonstrate how an Avoidant attachment pattern in childhood affects people throughout their lives and can lead to Dismissive-Avoidant patterns in adulthood Discus…

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What It’s Like To Live With Mental Disorder

…depression. It’s called depression with psychotic tendencies. It’s not my inner self that is talking to me either. There’s three different voices and one of them wants me dead. I can’t tell people this or talk about it because it freaks people out and some people that I do tell assume I’m some dangerous person and run the other direction.” — Jennifer L. I’M NOT STRONG LIKE YOU “My sadness — out of fear that others will judge me because of how min…

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Understanding Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment 

…w you behave)? Techniques to break free from negative cycles, develop more inner security, and achieve closer, more fulfilling relationships Tools to calm down and relieve anxiety that arises in relationships Learning Objectives: List the common characteristics of an Anxious-Preoccupied attachment pattern Demonstrate how an Anxious-Ambivalent attachment pattern in childhood affects people throughout their lives and can lead to Anxious-Preoccupied…

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4 Home Remedies for Being More Relaxed

…ant. 2. Drink Green Tea Drinking green tea is another great way to achieve inner peace and wind down. Green tea contains an amino acid called L-theanine, which is a derivative of glutamate, a type of amino acid. The reason why this particular type of tea works so well is that theanine has been proven to be an anti-stress chemical as effective as anti-anxiety pharmaceutical drugs. Its main perk? It does not come with all the unpleasant side effects…

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