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The Role of the Authentic Self in Trauma-Informed Care

…you. How Therapy Can Help Therapy works to build an emotionally corrective relationship where, in a safe relationship with a therapist, trauma survivors develop the ability to be self-compassionate, vulnerable, and authentic. Non-trauma survivors gain this ability growing up in healthy, securely attached families—but it can also be built later in life! I want clients to know that one of the goals in therapy is to take what you learn about yourself…

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A Divorce Story

…boyfriend on Facebook, and she had decided that she wanted to pursue that relationship. The way she presented it, it was already a done deal. I told her, ‘Ok. If that’s what you want, I will do what I can. She left that night to stay with a friend, and I tried to keep myself together.” At first he hoped they might get back together, but as time went on, he wasn’t sure he really wanted her back. He was in mourning, not for Allison exactly, but for…

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How to Be Vulnerable to Love

…ing for what you want is crucial to maintaining your vulnerability in your relationship. EXPRESS AND ACCEPT AFFECTION When you offer and accept affection in your intimate relationship, you encourage your vulnerability and discourage your controlling defenses. As both you and your partner participate in the mutual give-and-take of loving exchanges, neither of you is likely to exert control over the other. When you are freely giving, and when you ar…

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How Technology is Changing Dating

…experience in itself. The story of meeting to be regaled throughout one’s relationship, the look, the spark, the connection which defined the early stages of the relationship. It seems now that has been lost in favour of choice, time and convenience. Technology has made our world faster passed and people want to spend as little time as possible looking for someone. They want dating to work around their lives in a time efficient way. Taking a way…

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The Fantasy Bond Explained: A Free Webinar Event with Dr. Lisa Firestone

…eness and sexual intimacy, while each partner maintains a differentiated and individuated sense of self. Dr. Firestone will discuss characteristics of a relationship in which a fantasy bond has developed verses an ideal relationship….

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The Appeal of Online Dating and Suggestions for Success

…f you start looking at every single date as a potential husband or serious relationship, I assure you, you will be disappointed. It’s vital for your emotional well being to realize that even if you’ve been on a few dates, this person is probably talking to multiple people in addition to you. Until the person has shown obvious signs of exclusivity or you’ve had that conversation, it’s safe to assume they’re continuing to find the next best thing. T…

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How To Be Assertive While Keeping A Kind Heart

…ibility with someone else would be assertive in a way that doesn’t come across as irresponsible. Life teaches us that interpersonal stress is inevitable. But rather than blow up, run away, or shut down, if you address relationship problems using compassionate assertiveness you may find that your confidence, as well as your relationships, will flourish.   Read Sherrie Vavrichek’s book The Guide to Compassionate Assertiveness…

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Overcoming Breakups and Rejection

…g a breakup or rejection, moving on can feel impossible. Although losing a relationship is hard for anyone, there are deeper, more complex reasons certain people become stuck in their pain and suffer more than others. A rejection can trigger a painful reminder of past hurts and launch people into a sea of self-attacks. In addition, experiencing a break up with someone breaks a fantasy of connection that people form in order to feel safe and secure…

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Overcoming the Fear of Intimacy

…icians working with clients to develop and maintain true intimacy in their relationships. She will introduce interventions that can lead to enhanced communication and more personal relating between couples, while also creating a heightened sense of individuality in each partner. Learning Objectives: Apply techniques from Voice Therapy to help challenge clients’ negative thoughts toward themselves and their partners. Explain how early childhood tra…

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Why Am I Still Single? Learn the Barriers That Ward Off Love

…ommon excuses they make keep them from getting into healthy and fulfilling relationships. It will highlight what Dr. Firestone has found to be the most significant, internal reasons people have trouble finding love. These include defenses, unhealthy attractions, fears of intimacy, pickiness, low self-esteem, fear of competition, isolation, routine and rule-making. Many people harbor psychological defenses that they believe will protect them but th…

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