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Staying True to Your Core Values in a Relationship

…u get to decide that. So at the end of every single day I need to say, “OK, Pat. How was I loving today?” If that’s one of my core values. How was I kind today? How was I supportive today? And you hold onto that. And by the way, this is the answer to a lot of tough questions that come up in love relationships or parental relationships, those tough questions that really go back to your values. And you say what would a kind person do about that? Wha…

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Is Your Smartphone Ruining Your Relationship?

…examined how smartphone use and smartphone dependency affect the health of relationships amongst college-aged adults. Young couples were asked about their own smartphone use and dependency as well as the perceived smartphone use and dependency of their partners. The study showed a significant link between higher levels of dependency on smartphones and higher levels of relationship uncertainty. Additionally, participants who perceived their partner…

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Take Control of Who You Are in Your Relationship

…ojection onto the world around us. Therefore, we often react irrationally. Couples, in particular, have a tendency to act in this way. In relationships, we become extra sensitive or attentive to each other’s comments or moods , and we’re ready to interpret them through the filter of our critical inner voice. Of course, our partner will sometimes say and do things that upset us. Yet, even if we’re right about the way we’re being treated, we still h…

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Critical Inner Voice and Intimacy

…l away from our partner, withdraw into ourselves and, once again, a loving relationship is destroyed. Identifying your critical inner voice’s attacks on your relationship # 1: Its attacks on you Take time to think about the critical thoughts and attacks you have about yourself in relation to love and your relationship. [For example: I’m so awkward, I always say the wrong thing. He (she) is going to think that I’m such an idiot.] Now translate thes…

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Experts Explain What Makes a Loving Relationship

…[SlideDeck2 id=13059] Watch PsychAlive Experts explain the different components that make up a loving and successful relationship….

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Can Secure Attachment Make Us Less Afraid During the Coronavirus Crisis?

…integrates our emotions, enabling us to develop a secure attachment in our relationships. Conclusion Being securely attached or developing “earned security” later in life, to a relationship partner, parent, child, or therapist, helps us cope with fear at any point in the life cycle. It frees us to focus attention on our personal growth and to be open to new experiences and relationships without always trying to guard against hurt and loss. Attachm…

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Collaborative Communication: A Powerful Tool for Couples

…understanding of the other and achieve more balance and closeness in their relationship. Many of our relationship problems come down to the way we communicate. In order for two people with two completely different minds and two complex personal histories to live harmoniously, there needs to be a certain amount of balance and understanding. Collaborative communication offers a pathway to achieve just that. Collaborative communication focuses on all…

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How to Deal with Rejection

How to Deal with Rejection

…gether in the first place. Eventually, when one partner decides to end the relationship, the other person is left mourning, not only the relationship, but the fantasy they created of being connected to the other. They forget or ignore the ways they struggled, the parts of them that didn’t gel so well with the other person, and the qualities they didn’t like in their partner or about the relationship. When we feel rejected, even when we feel anger…

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Tools for Surviving a Breakup

…rves that by nurturing individual ambitions that were neglected during the relationship, a greater purpose can be found in the motivation to recover. By refocusing on achieving these previously set aside goals, a more solidified sense of self will blossom—separate from that of the late relationship. These potential steps toward self-concept repair can help guide us through recovery. Once this self-identity has been reclaimed, we can start to mend…

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The Real Reason You’re Not Married

…imacy. In nearly 30 years of research into the psychology of interpersonal relationships, both I and my father, psychologist and author Robert Firestone, Ph.D., have closely followed hundreds of clients and case studies of couples. In our research we have found overwhelming consistency in certain behavioral patterns that systematically sabotage real intimacy. First off, the search for a partner to whom we feel a real attraction and deep connection…

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