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Genuine Relating in an Imperfect World

…. They don’t expect to resolve all their disagreements. Gottman quotes Dr. Dan Wile, “When choosing a long-term partner… you will inevitably be choosing a particular set of unsolvable problems.” In the “good enough relationship,” people don’t look to their partner and relationship to solve all of their problems or to heal their childhood wounds. They are not looking for their missing piece. Gottman has identified reasonable expectations for partne…

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How to Stop Yourself from “Losing It” With Your Partner

…is surfacing. 3. Investigate: look into our internal experience. Try what Dan Siegel calls SIFTing through our experience by noting any Sensations, Images, Feelings and Thoughts that come up. 4. Non-identification: resist the urge to allow our thoughts, feelings or experiences to define us. Realize that they move through us. If a memory arises, remember that the memory is not happening to us now and does not define who we are. As we get deeper in…

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Seven Qualities of an Ideal Partner

…itely eases the tense moments in a relationship. Besides, it always feels good to have fun with someone! Read Dr. Lisa Firestone’s Article on the Characteristics of an Ideal Partner Creating Thriving Relationships: Free Webinar with Drs. Daniel Siegel and Lisa Firestone Length: 60 Minutes Price: FREE On-Demand Webinars Watch Now In this Webinar: This Webinar will feature a lively discussion between friends and colleagues Drs. Dan Siegel and Lisa F…

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The Importance of Self-Worth

…d compassion as you would treat a friend. This involves taking on what Dr. Dan Siegel describes as the “COAL” attitude, which means being Curious, Open, Accepting and Loving toward yourself and your experiences rather than being self-critical. There are three steps to practicing self-compassion: 1) Acknowledge and notice your suffering. 2) Be kind and caring in response to suffering. 3) Remember that imperfection is part of the human experience an…

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6 Ways To Calm Your Nervous System

…rain to send soothing neurotransmitters to calm you down. Learn more about Dan Siegel’s approach here. Notice: Am I in danger right here right now? If your nervous system is activated, it’s helpful to notice whether it’s because of the current moment, or something from the past. If you are triggered from the past, you could be in a flashback and need help noticing that you are not in danger currently – which is why we wrote this flashback halting…

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Protected: We Are Intraconnected: Webinar Video and Resources

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Protected: Identity, Belonging, and IntraConnection: Webinar Video and Resources

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A Powerful Way To Stop Projecting Onto Your Partner

…s a genuine and non-dramatic way to take a gentler approach to each other, and help avoid falling into destructive patterns where both people wind up acting in ways we later regret. Creating Thriving Relationships: Free Webinar with Drs. Daniel Siegel and Lisa Firestone Length: 60 Minutes Price: FREE On-Demand Webinars Watch Now In this Webinar: This Webinar will feature a lively discussion between friends and colleagues Drs. Dan Siegel and Lisa F…

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We Are Intraconnected: Living Into the Wholeness of Life

…internal and external, the subjective and objective, this webinar with Dr. Dan Siegel will reveal how modern culture, as well as how our brain is wired, may give us a message of separation as a solo, isolated self. Yet a wider perspective unveils that who we are, what a deeper reality actually is, may be something more—broader than the brain, bigger even than the body—yet fundamental to the social systems and the natural world in which we live. Dr…

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Mr. Rogers is Right: Secure Attachment Allows for Growth After Trauma

…mpassion before it was popular. This also made me think immediately of Dr. Dan Siegel’s 4 S’s of secure attachment, in which children and adolescents need to feel: Seen, Safe, Soothed and Secure. The truth is, it is difficult (maybe impossible!) to have love, kindness and acceptance for others if you don’t first have it for yourself! “Mutual caring relationships require kindness and patience, tolerance, optimism, joy in the other’s achievements, c…

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