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Self-consciousness

Self-Consciousness: How to Reduce Self-Consciousness

…, there are deeper roots for these feelings. For more than 30 years, Dr.’s Robert and Lisa Firestone have done case studies, examining a negative thought process people possess referred to as their “critical inner voice.” When assessing which self-critical thoughts or “voices” people experience, they found that the most common “voice” listed was “you are not like other people.” That feeling like there is something fundamentally wrong with us can c…

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Death Anxiety

…e, we are able to more fully embrace love and the spirit of life. Read Dr. Robert Firestone’s Article on Factors that Increase or Suppress Death Anxiety Read Dr. Robert Firestone’s Article on Societal Defenses Against Death Anxiety References Florian, V., & Mikulincer, M. (2004). A multifaceted perspective on the existential meanings, manifestations, and consequences of the fear of personal death. In J. Greenberg, S. L. Koole, & T. Pyszczynski (Ed…

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Building Self-Esteem

…and less likely to use alcohol and drugs or to develop eating disorders.” Robert Firestone suggests that you always “make a concerted effort to maintain personal integrity in your life by insisting that your actions correspond to your words.” If eating healthy or looking your best are important to you, for instance, it is important to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Otherwise, you’ll be more vulnerable to attacks from your critical inner voice and…

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Commitment Issues: Why Some People Have Them and Others Don’t

…discusses her therapy practice as well as the practice of her father, Dr. Robert Firestone. She describes the therapeutic relationship and what the optimal therapist/client relationship would feel and look like. This page is full of resources and tips for finding a therapist. The book Fear of Intimacy by Dr. Robert Firestone and Joyce Catlett is the product of some 40 years of clinical experience helping people to understand and undo the defenses…

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Trust Issues: Why Is It So Hard for Some People to Trust?

…rouble to shield the child from that which is unpredictable.” According to Robert Firestone, such parents are also “characteristically warm, affectionate, and sensitive in feeding and caring for their children and offer them control, direction, and guidance as well.” Childhood experiences that contribute to trust issues There are numerous aversive childhood experiences that contribute to children’s mistrust and lack of confidence. For example, par…

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Beware of the Soulmate Myth

…ually damaging to the individuals in the couple and to their relationship. Robert Firestone has identified the destructive impact of the fantasy bond, a defensive reaction in which the members of a couple develop a fantasy of being one with their mate. Their real feelings of love and the delight they once took in interpersonal exchanges are slowly replaced by the fantasy of being merged with and magically connected to each other. How a Fantasy Bon…

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Bonus Episode: Steps of Voice Therapy

…that often arise from this therapeutic technique. Podcast: Play in new window | Download Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Stitcher | TuneIn | RSS…

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Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion: Part I

…to reread Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion written by my husband, Robert Firestone. In the first chapter, he discusses goals and qualities for creating a meaningful life. I found these suggestions to be helpful and heartening, and thought it would be valuable to share them on my blog, especially now when life is throwing us a curve ball. I will discuss the first 4 qualities in this blog, and the last 4 in a blog later this month. There is…

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Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion: Part 2

…tlined in Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion written by my husband, Robert Firestone. In his words, “If the good life is fundamentally one in which we fully develop our human potentialities, describing these potentialities is central to our understanding of how to proceed.” This blog explains the last four of the eight human qualities that Robert presented in his book: the desire for social affiliation the ability to set goals and develop s…

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The Importance of Self-Worth

…ocker suggests that you find “a goal that is bigger than the self.” As Dr. Robert Firestone says, “Investing energy in transcendent goals and activities that extend beyond one’s self interest, for example, contributing to a humanitarian cause or trying, in some way, to improve the lot of future generations, helps build self-esteem.” Acting on principles, in ways that you respect, is another important quality to foster as you develop a higher level…

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