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3 Steps to Sustaining a Loving Relationship

…aspects of who we are by attempting to merge our identity with theirs. As Dan puts it, couples should aim to become a “fruit salad” rather than a “smoothie.” Unfortunately, most of us struggle in either our ability to link or our ability to differentiate. Some of us are very good at linking but not that good at keeping our sense of self. Others are very good at staying autonomous but struggle to be close to a partner. So, how can we use the conce…

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Disorganized Attachment: How Disorganized Attachments Form & How They Can Be Healed

…op with Dr. Lisa Firestone will provide tools to help people heal insecure attachment, resolve trauma, integrate their… Learn More To learn more about how to write a coherent narrative and develop an earned secure attachment, join Dr. Lisa Firestone and Dr. Daniel Siegel for the online course “Making Sense of Your Life: Understanding Your Past to Liberate Your Present and Empower Your Future.” Read More About Attachment: What is Your Attachment St…

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How Your Attachment Style Impacts Your Relationship

…s to leave them, they would respond by saying, “I don’t care.” Fearful Avoidant Attachment – A person with a fearful avoidant attachment lives in an ambivalent state of being afraid of being both too close to or too distant from others. They attempt to keep their feelings at bay but are unable to; they can’t just avoid their anxiety or run away from their feelings. Instead, they are overwhelmed by their reactions and often experience emotional sto…

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Making Sense of Your Life to Empower Your Future

…u to think about your childhood from a different perspective. My colleague Dan Siegel and I have elaborated on this process, creating a series of role- plays and descriptions of the various attachment styles. We have described how these styles become internalized as expectations about the ways we will be treated by others as well as the types of responses we will elicit from them. We have also developed a series of exercises and techniques one can…

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Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence

Watch Dr. Dan Siegel introduce his new book, Aware, an exploration of a groundbreaking meditation practice and the mind: “Travel Guide to the Mind” In the book, Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence, you will learn a practical way to create well-being in your life. Based on the science of meditation, this “travel guide to the mind” will offer you in Part I step-by-step instructions on how to practice the Wheel of Awareness. The Wheel is a s…

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How You Can Change Your Brain

Watch Dr. Dan Siegel explain how you can change your own brain. See More of Dr. Dan Siegel’s Interview Contrary to what we used to believe we now know that the brain is open to change throughout the lifespan. And what some people don’t realize is that not only can the brain change, but we can learn to use the focus of the mind to actually change the connections in the brain itself. You might ask, “How in the world could attention change something…

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Parenting advice, parenting, Tina Bryson

Knowledge, Instinct, and Self-Understanding: Basic Parenting Tips | By Dr. Tina Bryson

…you’ll be able to love and nurture them in the everyday moments of life. (Dan Siegel and I wrote an article about this idea for the PBS series “This Emotional Life.” Click here to see it.) Remember, also, to take care of yourself and your marriage and your other relationships. Avoid focusing so much on parenting well that you neglect your own emotional and physical health. For your children to fully flourish, they need parents who are flourishing…

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Suicide Prevention for LGBT Teens

…ound the world. Watch columnist and founder of the It Gets Better Project, Dan Savage, and his husband, Terry Miller, tell their stories of growing up as gay teens and how life got better for them. As Miller says, “If you can live through high school, which you can … you’re going to have a great life. It’s going to be the envy of all those people that picked on you.” See the video from Dan and Terry below or to see the hundreds of video messages f…

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Mindfulness Can Quiet Down the A**Hole Voice in Our Heads

I was recently interviewing ABC News anchor Dan Harris, author of 10% Happier, for an upcoming online symposium on Uncovering Happiness. I really enjoyed spending time with him rapping about what happiness is really about and why mindfulness and compassion can help inspire it. But one of the things that really made me laugh was when he said it can stop you from being an A-hole. It’s so true and here’s how. Our inner voices can be a real pain some…

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How to Change a Habit for Good: According to Neuroscience

…us make changes (one way or the other). In his book, The Developing Mind, Dan Siegel, MD pioneer of a field called Interpersonal Neurobiology says it brilliantly, “The structure and function of the developing brain are determined by how experiences, especially within interpersonal relationships, shape the genetically programmed maturation of the nervous system.” In other words, our relationships have a major impact on our how brains develop and f…

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