communication

Empathy: How It Can Help Us All Right Now

In the aftermath of the most contentious election in recent history, many people are talking about the need for empathy in order to heal our divided nation. Facebook posts are flying around that charge us to rise above the rancor and offer empathy to those with whom we disagree. Just recently, Meryl Streep spoke to… Read more »

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How to Say What You Want in Your Relationship

In my 30 years working with couples, I’ve noticed that most people have an easy time describing what they don’t want in their relationship. If prompted, they’re able to rapidly fire off the many issues that they feel are creating distance between them and their partner. Yet, if I ask the same people what they… Read more »

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Do You Have an Honest Relationship?

For all the great things we say about being honest – that it’s the best policy or that the truth shall set us free – research tells us that we aren’t all that great at it. According to studies by Dr. Bella DePaulo, people lie in one in five of their interactions. These lies aren’t only to… Read more »

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VIDEO: Dr. Allan Schore on Therapeutic Alliance and Emotional Communication

Watch an excerpt from PsychAlive’s interview with Dr. Allan Schore. Dr. Allan Schore describes the therapeutic alliance as a bond of emotional communication, right brain to right brain.  Dr. Allan Schore: The therapeutic alliance literature, which has been on the efficacy of psychotherapy is now showing that essentially the therapeutic alliance is a bond of emotional… Read more »

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VIDEO: Dr. Allan Schore on the Role of Non-Verbal Communication in Treating Suicidal Patients

Watch an excerpt from PsychAlive’s interview with Dr. Allan Schore. Dr. Allan Schore discusses the non-verbal communications critical to affecting outcomes in therapy with suicidal patients.  Dr. Allan Schore: Just for the record, we’re not talking here about anxiety and guilt.  Anxiety and guilt are kind of left (brain).  We’re talking about affects which are, have… Read more »

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VIDEO: Dr. James Garbarino Offers Practical and Insightful Guidelines for Parenting

Watch an excerpt from PsychAlive’s exclusive interview with Dr. James Garbarino. Dr. James Garbarino advises tips on raising self-disclosing adolescents. Dr. James Garbarino: Well, I think at one level, there are some preventive things.  There’s some research on adolescents – parents’ awareness of adolescents’ actual experiences.  And the finding naturally was that adolescents who disclose… Read more »

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The New World Order: have we gone too far with technology?

It is a different world than the one in which most of us were raised in, in terms of technology and convenience.  Technology is here to stay to make our lives easier.  We don’t have to remember phone numbers, look at a map to get where we are going or worry about complaints of “are… Read more »

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Online Dating Profiles: Fact or Fiction

          By Lindsay Larson Aaah the internet…that magical land where group Facebook pictures and event invites seem to wipe away all insecurities. People can present themselves however they see fit, or so it would seem. However, according to a recent study about managing impressions online, individuals on online dating sites don’t… Read more »

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Three Ways We Make Communication Impossible

Strong communication is often said to be at the core of a solid relationship. But for communication to exist, these qualities must not. It’s sensible to imagine that when two people truly like each other, they’re willing to listen to each other’s struggles and stories, and respond with interest and compassion. But, very often, other… Read more »

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The Difference Between Emotional Hunger and Real Love

Emotional hunger is not love. It is a strong emotional need caused by deprivation in childhood. It is a primitive condition of pain and longing which people often act out in a desperate attempt to fill a void or emptiness. This emptiness is related to the pain of aloneness and separateness and can never realistically… Read more »

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