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Suicide on the Rise – What We Do by Lisa Firestone, Ph.D.

…a person who is contemplating suicide. On a self-report questionnaire, The Firestone Assessment of Self-Destructive Thoughts (FAST), the people who had made previous suicide attempts endorsed negative thoughts or “critical inner voices” that told them they were a burden to their family and friends. “You’d be doing your family a favor if you killed yourself.” (This has been labeled “perceived burdensomeness” by researcher Thomas Joiner.) Suicidal p…

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Dr. Lisa Firestone on the Lasting Impact of Childhood

…Dr. Lisa Firestone on the Lasting Impact of Childhood…

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Video: Dr. Lisa Firestone’s Thoughts on Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day Articles by Dr. Lisa Firestone: How to Not Feel Let Down This Valentine’s Day When I think of Valentine’s Day, I inevitably think of February 15. That’s the day that people come in to work or meet friends for coffee and talk about the events of the previous evening. Some excerpts I’ve heard in … Read More » Advice for Valentine’s Day: Amplify the Romance in Your Relationship We’re all familiar with the complaint that Valentine’s D…

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Understanding Your Critical Inner Voice: A Video Presentation with Dr. Lisa Firestone

…the world. Learn where this inner critic comes from as well as how to identify and overcome your Critical Inner Voice in the following video presentation. Watch Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. Explain the Concept of the Critical Inner Voice   Read more about the Critical Inner Voice…

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Fantasy Bond 101

…and interferes with a person’s movement toward individuation and autonomy. Robert Firestone writes, “Existential dread impels us to form illusory connections, hoping to recapture the infantile sense of safety, security and omnipotence provided by the original fantasy bond. We are subconsciously looking to a significant person or other external source to guarantee us immortality much as we imagined our parent could. The fantasy bond that was formed…

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Courage, assertiveness, critical inner voice, vulnerability, Dr. Robert Firestone, Psychalive

A New Slant on Vulnerability: Courage Not Conformity

…ountry skiing, extreme sports. What do you mean by the term “courage?” Dr. Robert Firestone: The courage to live according to your principles, and to tolerate the pain or the anxiety of being different from other people, of being creative, of living a unique existence; the courage to face death with equanimity. To stand by one’s beliefs is part of that, too. It takes courage to stand behind one’s beliefs when they run counter to a society or a gro…

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Self-consciousness

Self-Consciousness: How to Reduce Self-Consciousness

…n we reduce our self-consciousness? 1. Stand up to your inner critic Dr.’s Robert and Lisa Firestone have written extensively about how to overcome your critical inner voice. The steps include: Identifying your specific voices Reflecting on where these negative thoughts may have originated Responding to your inner critic with a realistic, compassionate point of view Understanding how your voices influence your behavior Challenging self-limiting or…

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Bonus Episode: Steps of Voice Therapy

…that often arise from this therapeutic technique. Podcast: Play in new window | Download Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Stitcher | TuneIn | RSS…

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Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships

…of many couples’ problems. In Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships, Dr. Robert W. Firestone and his coauthors explore the dimensions of healthy sexuality and love. Drawing on their 40 years of combined clinical experience and a unique longitudinal study of couples and families, they propose that sexual problems are largely related to defenses acquired through painful childhood experiences. They describe the effects of the core defense, that is,…

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Self-Sabotaging: Why We Get in Our Own Way

…f under Siege: A Therapeutic Model for Differentiation, co-authored by Dr. Robert Firestone, Dr. Lisa Firestone and Joyce Catlett, we describe the four steps involved in differentiation. Step one involves separating from the destructive attitudes (critical inner voices) we internalized based on painful early life experiences. The second step requires us to separate from the negative traits in our parents or influential caretakers that we’ve taken…

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