Dr. Lisa Firestone On Ways to Improve Your Relationship
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Why Relationships Scare Us
…l discuss how we can all work to separate from the negative overlays of our past and approach our relationships with fresh eyes and on our own terms. Join Lisa Firestone for the Webinar, “Understanding and Overcoming Relationship Anxiety.”…
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I Hate Myself
…le with. Where then, do thoughts like these come from? What Dr. Robert and Lisa Firestone have found in their research is that these thoughts originate in negative early life experiences. The way we are viewed growing up and the attitudes directed toward us shape how we see ourselves. Harmful views directed at us by parents or other influential caretakers are internalized to make up our self-image. Just as our parent’s positive attitudes toward us…
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How to Overcome Insecurity: Why Am I So Insecure?
…our feelings of insecurity. This is called the “critical inner voice.” Dr. Lisa Firestone, who co-authored the book Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice wrote, “The critical inner voice is formed out of painful early life experiences in which we witnessed or experienced hurtful attitudes toward us or those close to us. As we grow up, we unconsciously adopt and integrate this pattern of destructive thoughts toward ourselves and others.” So, what event…
Learn MoreWhat Demi Moore and Twitter Can Teach You About Stopping Suicide by Lisa Firestone, Ph.D.
…complete list of misconceptions about suicide click here. So, what if you fear someone you know may be suicidal? What do you do? On the website, PsychAlive.org, I outline a step-by-step action plan on how you can help someone who’s in a suicidal crisis. These steps involve engaging the person, exploring their situation, identifying whether they are thinking about suicide, inquiring about why they are considering suicide and assessing their risk f…
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Suicide on the Rise – What We Do by Lisa Firestone, Ph.D.
…a person who is contemplating suicide. On a self-report questionnaire, The Firestone Assessment of Self-Destructive Thoughts (FAST), the people who had made previous suicide attempts endorsed negative thoughts or “critical inner voices” that told them they were a burden to their family and friends. “You’d be doing your family a favor if you killed yourself.” (This has been labeled “perceived burdensomeness” by researcher Thomas Joiner.) Suicidal p…
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How to Go “All In” in a Relationship (Without Losing Yourself)
…ship poses a threat to the way we see ourselves and the world. Because our fear of intimacy ties so deeply to our (often painful) past, many of us fail to see it for what it is. Rather than understanding the root of our anxiety around being open and vulnerable to another person, we find all kinds of reasons and excuses to resist going all in in our relationships. So, how can we start to let down our guard and let someone in without feeling like we…
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Why Do So Many People Respond Negatively to Being Loved?
…ain on real love and gratification from a romantic partner. Overcoming the Fear of Intimacy Length: 90 Minutes Price: $59 On-Demand Webinars In this Webinar: A 75-year longitudinal study from Harvard recently reported that love and relationships are by far the most important factors to leading… Learn More 5. Positive acknowledgment arouses guilt in relation to surpassing the parent of the same sex. Achieving success in one’s love life or caree…
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The Real Reason You’re Not Married
…e more driven we become to push them away. This is also a side-effect of a fear of intimacy lingering below the surface and warning us not to be too vulnerable or too intimate. However, this fear also motivates us to react to our partners in ways that are excessively controlling, critical and unkind. We start to read negative intent into our partner’s actions and seek hidden meaning in their words. We can take a behavior as simple as a delay in un…
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Passionate Love: What is the “spark” and how can we keep it alive?
…to how well our relationships progress to, sadly, how they end,” said Dr. Lisa Firestone. “That is why recognizing our attachment pattern can help us understand our strengths and vulnerabilities in a relationship… When there is a secure attachment pattern, a person is confident and self-possessed and is able to easily interact with others. However, when there is an anxious or avoidant attachment pattern, and a person picks a partner who fits with…
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