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Fighting the Emotional Battles of Breast Cancer

…sa Etheridge did this, “So I really totally went away and that really hurt intimacy. I was dealing with this issue, this fear, I was fighting it all myself but I was not available; I was not there [with my partner].” It is important to maintain intimacy and actively go against what your critical inner voice is telling you. Dr. Ornich advises, “Anything that can create a sense of intimacy is healing; whether it is making love, whether it is by expr…

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Are You Single for the Right Reasons?

…searcher Brene Brown pointed out, “Vulnerability is not about fear and grief and disappointment. It is the birthplace of everything we’re hungry for.” Join Dr. Lisa Firestone for the Webinar ” Why Am I Still Single? Learn the Barriers That Ward Off Love“…

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Why Am I Still Single? Learn the Barriers That Ward Off Love

…have trouble finding love. These include defenses, unhealthy attractions, fears of intimacy, pickiness, low self-esteem, fear of competition, isolation, routine and rule-making. Many people harbor psychological defenses that they believe will protect them but that actually ward off love. Dr. Firestone will introduce ways that people can differentiate from these defenses by recognizing and challenging the traits that prevent them from forming clos…

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Springtime Renewal

…Just think about it. The more you avoid, the more power you bestow to the fear; the more you confront, the less substantial the fear becomes. As a recent fortune cookie read: “Comfort Zones are most often expanded through discomfort.” Although Exposure Therapy may seem daunting at first, especially when we’ve spent most of our lives avoiding that which we fear, it does get easier with concerted effort over time. Truthfully, nothing worth having i…

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The Importance of Gratitude When You Have to Face Trauma Today

…ht even bring tears to your eyes. What if you immediately notice only that fear or sadness? What if even fear or sadness could eventually also bring an awareness of what you have in your life, even gratitude? What if those were signs of how meaningful your pet is to you? What if you have to hold both—the feelings of joy and fear? What if it might lead to a feeling of lightness and full-heartedness? What if it leads to the awareness that you can ho…

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Dr. Robert Firestone on "What is a Mentally Healthy Person?"

Dr. Robert Firestone describes the qualities of a mentally healthy person: First of all, it depends a lot on their own motivation and their particular goals for themselves. But in general, the kind of person I would like to see them be is one who had a strong sense of themselves; a person who could deal with feelings; a person who was non-defensive; a person who had a strong sense of values; a person whose values were inner directed, rather than…

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A Guide to Finding Yourself

…ndividuals gradually acquire in the course of their development,” said Dr. Firestone. “It is self-assertion, and a natural, healthy striving for love, satisfaction and meaning in one’s interpersonal world.” Knowing our personal power means recognizing that we have a heavy effect on our lives. We create the world we live in. To create a better world means shifting our outlook, feeling empowered and rejecting a victimized point of view. Dr. Robert F…

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Building Self-Esteem

…s tremendous benefits to both physical and mental health. According to Dr. Lisa Firestone, “Generosity is a natural confidence builder and a natural repellent of self-hatred. Not only does it make us feel better about ourselves, but it actively combats feelings of isolation and depression.”Another benefit of generosity is that it requires us to shift our focus off of ourselves. Dr. Firestone explains that we often focus on ourselves in negative wa…

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The Importance of Self-Worth

…ladaptive behaviors, which make us feel even worse about ourselves. As Dr. Lisa Firestone explained in her article “7 Reasons Most People Are Afraid of Love:” We all have a “critical inner voice,” which acts like a cruel coach inside our heads that tells us we are worthless or undeserving of happiness. This coach is shaped from painful childhood experiences and critical attitudes we were exposed to early in life as well as feelings our parents had…

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Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice

Robert W. Firestone Ph.D., Lisa Firestone Ph.D. and Joyce Catlett, M.A. – A Revolutionary Program to Counter Negative Thoughts and Live Free from Imagined Limitations. – This book teaches the means for dealing effectively with negative thoughts, attitudes and beliefs that act as barriers to one’s personal development, sabotage relationships and interfere with career success. This destructive thought process is what authors Robert W. Firestone, Ph…

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