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Are You Sabotaging Your Relationship?

…a tendency to form a “fantasy bond,” a term coined by my father Dr. Robert Firestone. The fantasy bond is a defense that allows us to feel as if we’ve joined with another person. This illusion of fusion can make us feel safe and secure, but it actually undermines our most vital feelings of love. What happens when people retreat into fantasy is that they let the form of the relationship replace the substance. They start to relate as a unit, present…

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Free Yourself from Your Inner Critic – A Weekend Retreat in Ojai, CA

…14 Where: Private Retreat Center in Ojai, California Instructors: Dr. Lisa Firestone and Joyce Catlett Description: Each of us has an “inner critic” judging our every action and instructing us on how to live our lives. But how much are we letting this inner critic control us and sabotage our goals? Are we living our own life or are we living based on someone else’s expectations or prescriptions for our life? Are our actions based on what we really…

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Do You Confuse Admiration with Love? Tales of a Covert Narcissist

…apist recommended that I read Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice, by Robert Firestone, Lisa Firestone and Joyce Catlett. There I learned methods for challenging this compulsion. By working through the journaling exercises, I gradually modified my defensive ways of relating to men, which had included building up a relationship partner, which was a disservice to both of us. Here are some other insights I gained from reading the book that may be helpf…

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Learn the CPR of Suicide Prevention Webinar Resources

Here you will find resources from Dr. Lisa Firestone’s September 11, 2014 Webinar “Learn the CPR of Suicide Prevention.” The slides from the presentation, video clips, books, films and additional mentioned resources are all available here. Missed the Webinar? Watch now: See slides from “Learn the CPR of Suicide Prevention” here See a full list of upcoming Webinars with Dr. Lisa Firestone, here * All Webinars are provided by The Glendon Associatio…

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The Inner Voice that Undermines Your Relationship

…r voices and the defensive behaviors these voices regulate,” said Dr. Lisa Firestone in her book Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice. How does the critical inner voice try to undermine a relationship? Take look at the scene in Annie Hall where the main characters, Annie and Alvy, have just met and are having a glass of wine on the balcony of her apartment: ALVY: So, did you shoot the photographs in there or what? ANNIE: Yeah, yeah, I sorta dabble ar…

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5 Things to Try Before You Give Up on Your Relationship

…ond.” A Fantasy Bond is a term developed by my father, psychologist Robert Firestone, to describe an illusion of connection many couples form at some point in their relationship. A Fantasy Bond differs from real love in that sincere acts of kindness are replaced by routine, and form is favored over substance in the relationship. Couples enter into this scenario without even realizing it, as a means to feel a false sense of security, an illusion of…

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Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice

by Robert W. Firestone, Ph.D., Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. Joyce Catlett, M.A. Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice: A Revolutionary Program to Counter Negative Thoughts and Live Free From Imagined Limitations offers means for dealing effectively with negative thoughts, attitudes, and beliefs that are barriers to one’s personal development, sabotage relationships, and interfere with career success. This book provides insights gleaned from 25 years of inve…

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How Childhood Defenses Hurt Us As Adults

…our development can lead us to develop what my father psychologist Robert Firestone and I refer to as the “self-system.” The self-system is made up of the unique qualities of the individual combined with a harmonious identification and incorporation of parent’s positive attitudes and traits. Of course, no person, or parent, is perfect. The “Division of the Mind” is a model my father and I developed, which poses that every person is divided. Peopl…

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Watch New Videos on PsychAlive’s YouTube Channel!

…PsychAlive has a new YouTube channel featuring videos from Dr. Daniel Siegel, Dr. Robert Firestone, Dr. Lisa Firestone and more! Visit us to explore issues of self, intimacy and parenting. Subscribe today!…

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PsychAlive’s YouTube Channel

…PsychAlive has a new YouTube channel featuring videos from Dr. Daniel Siegel, Dr. Robert Firestone, Dr. Lisa Firestone and more! Visit us to explore issues of self, intimacy and parenting. Subscribe today!…

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