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Understanding and Overcoming Relationship Anxiety

…ctually hurt or limit our current relationships. In this Webinar, Dr. Lisa Firestone will shed light on why we experience relationship anxiety. Where do our fears come from? She will introduce the concept of attachment theory and explain how our early attachments styles can shape our feelings and actions in our adult relationships. She will further explain the influence of the “critical inner voice,” a negative thought process we internalize early…

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Why Relationships Scare Us

…ivalent toward relationships. As my father, psychologist and author Robert Firestone, wrote, “Most people have a fear of intimacy and at the same time are terrified of being alone.” This fear causes some people to resist closeness. A lot of people want someone up until the moment that someone wants them back, or they only start wanting a person when that person stops wanting them. For other people, fear makes them cling to their relationships. The…

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How to Reduce Self-Criticism and Make Real Change

…steps you can take to challenge your critical inner voice or join Dr. Lisa Firestone for the CE Webinar “Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice.” Embrace self-compassion Luckily, there is a much more favorable attitude to adopt toward ourselves that can act as an anti-dote to our “critical inner voice.” That is one of self-compassion. Research has proven that self-compassion training is effective in reducing self-criticism. Additionally, being more sel…

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Helping Clients Overcome Depression

…s as well as the feelings behind those thoughts. In this Webinar, Dr. Lisa Firestone will introduce a self-empowering approach to treating depression, while highlighting specific actions individuals can take that have been shown to reduce symptoms of depression. She will discuss a method in which therapists can help clients identify a destructive line of thinking known as the “critical inner voice” that can perpetuate a cycle of depression. When s…

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Handling Conflict in Relationships

…eepen connection. In this introspective and enlightening webinar, Dr. Lisa Firestone will describe how adopting certain principles can help couples use this time to not just survive but to thrive. Drawing on more than 30 years of research, theory, and clinical experience with couples, Dr. Firestone will explore how each person’s internal defenses formed in childhood are often at the root of the deepest conflict or distress in their relationships,…

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Who’s the Boss in Your Relationship?

…se patterns, many of which are characteristic of what my father Dr. Robert Firestone terms a “fantasy bond,” an illusion of connection that replaces real relating and allows couples to overstep each other’s boundaries and function as a single unit. Genuine loving actions are replaced with the form and routine of being a couple. As we develop this type of bond and see the other person as an extension of ourselves, we’re more likely to act out contr…

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Is Fear of Emotion Driving Our Addiction?

…ts to live, pursue goals and experience life and what my father Dr. Robert Firestone calls the “anti-self,” which seeks to isolate us, cut us off from feeling and even obliterate or destroy us. Our anti-self aims to protect us from the natural pain or fear that comes from caring about or investing in life, but it winds up limiting and hurting us in countless ways, for instance, by steering us toward addiction. When we indulge the notion that we ca…

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How to Tame Your Inner Critic

…and a critical, coaxing and destructive inner voice. My father Dr. Robert Firestone often refers to this internal enemy as an “anti-self” and the language of this enemy as the “critical inner voice.” Getting to know and challenge this “voice” is one of the most essential psychological hurdles we can overcome in striving to live our version of our best life. For our real self to win out over our anti-self, we have to understand how our inner voice…

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How to Say What You Want in Your Relationship

…-centered; she only cares about herself.” As my father psychologist Robert Firestone often says about engaging in this way, “You may win the battle, but you will lose the war.” While many people tend to be more combative, there are those who take the opposite approach. Rather than say what they want, they shut down or turn inward. They may feel quietly resentful toward their partner or indulge in destructive thoughts toward themselves. They may ha…

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