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What Inside Out Can Teach us about Loving our Kids

…ving a downstairs tantrum, it is best to connect through touch or soothing voice and help him calm down. Later, when he has settled down and the cerebral cortex is back online, you can talk about what happened and help him make sense of it (2012). These examples are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to what experts know about kids’ developing brains, and it is well worth our while to learn as much we can. Another powerful message in the fi…

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sexual stereotypes, psychalive

Dr. Robert Firestone on The Fantasy Bond

…ond explains the concept of the Fantasy Bond.   Robert W. Firestone, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, author, and artist. He is the Consulting Theorist for the non-profit, The Glendon Association. Author of many books including Voice Therapy, The Fantasy Bond, Fear of Intimacy and Beyond Death Anxiety, he has also published more than 30 professional articles and chapters and produced 35 video documentaries. See more from Dr. Robert Firestone on…

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The Abuse of Overparenting

…g shift has its positives. Children are people, and they deserve to have a voice within their home. Parents should always aim to treat their kids with respect, interest, and consideration. However, the trend of helicopter parenting has been taken to extremes and, in that, we are also witnessing pro-parenting’s negative effects. A 2011 PEW Research survey further found that “40% of 18- to 24-year-olds currently live with their parents, and the vast…

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Why Competitive Feelings Are Good For You

…fun like this. I want to share that with her.” Instead of listening to the voice in his head that told him to pull away and act cold to her, he joined her and engaged in joking around with her. By being lighthearted and fun himself, she was naturally drawn to him, and they were both able to feel closer and happier with each other. If he’d acted on his jealous insecurities, rather than admitting he felt competitive, he would have achieved just the…

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A Relationship is a Creative Work: An Interview with Dr. James and Carol Gilligan

…acknowledgment that he felt I challenged him to write that book in his own voice. That incredible opening of that book, just the sheer writing of the opening of that—I know Jim as somebody who could do that. If you really want to know why are we together after all these years, that’s probably the answer to that. Dr. James Gilligan and Dr. Carol Gilligan – A Marriage Can Be Many Marriages Dr. Carol Gilligan: You go through time. That’s the other th…

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Sibling Rivalry, brothers and sisters

Siblings: Retaliation or Sadistic Pleasure

…e not sure how you feel about responding to Suzie’s request for sushi for dinner, saying maybe now and no later can be a trigger. It is also important to minimizing situations that invite impulsive behavior (ie: taking your child who wants to buy everything they see into store). Additionally, some respect of Suzie or Johnny’s sensitivities may be appropriate. For example, if Johnny who is on the autistics spectrum, gets upset by loud noises and Ja…

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How to Succeed in Life Without Really Trying

…her gift?” Like, she was paralyzed by stage fright or listened to a little voice in her head that told her she wasn’t good enough to sing in front of an entire church. We would all be missing out on an incredible blessing. Singing is one of her God-given gifts and she honored that by sharing it. Then I realized that we all have God-given gifts, natural passions that connect us to our true selves, part of our core identity, but I would venture to s…

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A Parent’s Shorthand Guide to the College Transition

…e, no mention of new friends or experiences, sleeping in late, behavior or voice indicative of apathy or lack of motivation, or less-than-stellar grades are indications of college freshman depression. If you feel your child could be experiencing this, talk to them about it, and also explore on campus and internet resources geared towards easing the college transition. It’s important to encourage socializing outside of the dorms, even though they m…

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Exploring anger

Exploring Anger: What It Is, What It Does, and When It’s Appropriate

…e. For example, even if you think no one is listening to you, raising your voice will only worsen the situation because people will focus on the fact that you are yelling, not what you’re yelling about. Nevertheless, bottling up anger has been shown in research to cause plaque build-up in arterial walls that can lead to congestive heart failure. So if you really feel the need to say something, be sure to express yourself in a way that you will be…

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The Last Jubilee by Stan Friedman

…aised himself again. But still the air held only calm. And this time, in a voice louder now, even more pleading, he called to the sky, “PLEASE!” Again, in but a moment, the wind. Only this time a larger, more insistent burst. Even more leaves were dislodged from the tree. But as before, my friend could catch no leaf. For one final time now Ronnie looked up and stared into eternity. I never did learn what was in his mind at that moment, but I saw t…

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