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7 Tips for Parent’s to Help Their Teen Create a Strong Sense of Self

…doing that because…___fill in the blank___. Stop and ask yourself, “Who’s voice am I hearing? Is it mine? Or is it a shaming adult in my past? Is it true?” Then go from there and try to be as open and supportive as you can be with your child’s choice of what interests him or her. This is a great chance for you to personally grow and reflect on your own programming and become more conscious in your own life—freeing yourself from past programming t…

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Living Life as an Authentic Adult

…role of either the parent or the child in relation to their loved ones. In Voice Therapy, I described how adult individuals interact in a close relationship: “People whose actions are based primarily on the adult mode relate to each other as independent individuals with considerable give and take in terms of reciprocal need gratification.” They have developed their capacity for both giving and accepting love and do not attempt to recreate a parent…

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VIDEO: Dr. Kirk Schneider on Developing Awe in Existential Psychotherapy

…aybe in the relationship with the therapist, in our own lives, through our voice, which I know is very important to you, through the power of re-visitation over and over again of our battle, our battle between what’s attempting to break through as we’re, you know, struggling with a particular issue and what is holding us back. And out of that, not for everyone, maybe everyone in degrees, but can come a break through, an eventual break through, if…

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How to Break the Cycle of Child Abuse

…stand and make sense of their experiences. Encourage them to recognize and voice their emotions. This will help them to formulate their own coherent narrative throughout their lives, which can lead to increased psychological resilience and overall emotional well-being. 3. Lead by example. How many times do we tell our kids to use their words? What are we teaching them when we don’t follow our own instruction? Aggressive behavior toward young child…

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Women’s Adaptation to Living in Our Patriarchal Society

…d other girls are finished [with their lunch] and this woman, carrying the voice of her eleven year old, she says, the woman teacher said, “I didn’t say anything when he said that [originally] because I relate to him the way I would relate to my husband.” But then when the girls came late from orchestra, she turned to the other girls one day and said, “You may be excused.” And the girls started to leave, and one of them turned and said, “Good for…

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5 Simple Steps to End Any Fight

…ased arousal, as if you are heating up. At these moments, you may hear yourinner critic coaching you to take destructive actions, like lashing out at your partner. Respond by calming yourself down, maybe by taking a series of deep breaths or counting back from 10. You can get a hold of these moments and learn to pause. For example, you can choose between intimating and violating, between addressing your partner from a loving stance and talking cal…

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How to Write your Way to Bliss

…said that miracles happen at the border where pain meets joy. When we give voice to our feelings not only do we honor them, but through writing we are able to make sense of what we feel. This is especially clear when we use techniques such as free writing or stream-of-consciousness writing, which is writing without lifting the pen off the page and allowing thoughts to go where they want to go. We might begin by writing about how we had such a bad…

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Sexting, Technology and Relationships

The New World Order: have we gone too far with technology?

…edia, while there is non-verbal communication (facial expressions, tone of voice, posture, gestures, timing, intensity, etc.) there is an absence of the dynamic experience of face-to-face social interaction. Skills such as social problem solving, compromise and conflict management may go underdeveloped. Consequently, the technology intended to improve the quality of our lives can instead lead to its deterioration through social disconnection, cybe…

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As Long As We Both Shall Live: Creating a Mindful Marriage

…eep in both partners, a simmering doubt that won’t be quieted: maybe, this voice whispers, this love affair won’t last. Maybe my love will tire of me over time. Maybe I don’t have what it takes to keep someone interested for an entire lifetime. In many ways we sometimes sabotage what otherwise would be a good thing because we privately believe we are “not good enough.” As a clinical psychologist and now married for a quarter of a century, I may ha…

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Comforting Those Who Grieve

…over for dinner when they moved into their house, and we had gone out to dinner with her and her husband once in a while, but she and I were just a bit more than cool acquaintances. I had always found her too loud – I could hear her yelling at her stepson and son through both our exterior walls. And I thought she was too nosy – she always seemed to poke her nose outside whenever I was in the garden. She was just too domineering and much too pushy…

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