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Are You in an Unhealthy Relationship?

…eak from destructive relationship patterns. How to Get Out of an Unhealthy Relationship Getting into an unhealthy relationship isn’t necessarily a sign that you’re with the wrong partner or that you should move on. Perhaps you have chosen someone who fits perfectly with your defenses, who supports an old, destructive, yet familiar image you have toward yourself. In that case, maybe it is best to part ways. However, maybe you’ve chosen someone who…

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Why Can’t You Move on From Your Relationship?

…stem that hurts them in their life today and keeps them reliving a painful relationship pattern. For anyone who feels especially stuck in a relationship that they intellectually understand to be hurting them, exploring their attachment pattern can be a transformative step in letting go of the past and choosing better relationships in the future. Understanding Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment Length: 60 Minutes Price: $39 On-Demand Webinars In this W…

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Forgiveness: The Secret to a Healthy Relationship

…11 study published in the Journal of Family Psychology on “Forgiveness and Relationship Satisfaction” showed that, in relationships, a lack of forgiveness makes resolving conflict much less likely. Research has also shown that a lack of forgiveness stirs up negative emotions and creates more conflict. Couples who don’t practice forgiveness are more likely to engage in “negative interpersonal tactics ” and have a poor ability to compromise or resol…

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How to Get Over a Breakup

…which can also lead us to feel desperate toward our former partner or the relationship. We may think we need that relationship to reaffirm our very sense of self – to make us believe that we’re okay. All of this is based on a very faulty idea set forth by a sadistic inner enemy. The sooner we challenge this voice, the more realistically and compassionately we’ll be able to view ourselves and our journey as an independent person separate from the…

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Getting Over Relationship Insecurity

…does our insecurity come from? Nothing awakens distant hurts like a close relationship. Our relationships stir up old feelings from our past more than anything else. Our brains are even flooded with the same neurochemical in both situations. We all have working models for relationships that were formed in our early attachments to influential caretakers. Whatever our early pattern was shapes our adult relationships, a subject I address in more det…

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How Do I Know if I Have a Fantasy Bond?

…rt the fantasy of closeness take the place of real relating. The form of a relationship is substituted for the substance of a relationship. Look for ways that you are using props to support your fantasy bond. Look for ways that form has replaced the substance of real relating and closeness in your relationship. Utilizing everyday routines as symbols of closeness Everyday routines can easily be used as props to support your fantasy bond. Are there…

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In a Relationship with a Narcissist? What You Need to Know About Narcissistic Relationships

…lirtations or affairs. How does a narcissistic partner negatively impact a relationship? Narcissistic relationships tend to be very challenging. Narcissistic partners usually have difficulty really loving someone else, because they don’t truly love themselves. They are so focused on themselves that they cannot really “see” their partner as a separate person. They tend to only see the partner in terms of how they fill their needs (or fail to fill t…

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Are You Expecting Too Much from Your Partner?

…Care, support, and nurturance are some of the sweetest aspects of a loving relationship, but when a relationship becomes unequal in terms of give and take, problems ensue. That is not to say that all transactions in a relationship should be measured or equalized, but no relationship can thrive when one person is expecting the other to take care of them completely. While a partner can offer a huge amount of compassion and support, we can’t expect t…

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Loving a Trauma Survivor: Understanding Childhood Trauma’s Impact On Relationships

…t good enough and unworthy of love. Thoughts like these can wreak havoc in relationships throughout life. When early childhood relationships are sources of overwhelming fear, or when absent, insecure or disorganized attachment leaves a person feeling helpless and alone, the mind needs some way to cope. A child may latch onto thoughts like Don’t trust, it’s not safe! Don’t reach out, don’t be a burden to anyone! Don’t dwell on how you feel, just mo…

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Beware of the Soulmate Myth

…s relationship. How to Keep Love Real and Alive Keep the Substance of Your Relationship To keep your relationship real and fresh, you can consciously avoid constructing your life and your relationship in a way that is so orderly and predictable that there is no room for spontaneity and surprise. You can make sure not to get caught up in everyday busyness to the point where you and your partner are living parallel lives rather than sharing your lif…

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