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Psychalive – Psychology for Everyday Life

…Able to Hold Hope In Life? Relationships Why Is Honesty So Important in a Relationship? When we talk about honesty in relationships, our mind often goes straight to deception. Read More A Powerful Way To Stop Projecting Onto Your Partner Most of the time, when I write about couples, I focus on steps individuals can take to feel closer to… Read More Want a Better Relationship? Work on Collaborative Communication Many people have only heard the ter…

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How to Deal with Rejection

The Paradox of Psychological Defenses

…tion compulsion –people tend to repeat the same mistakes and dysfunctional relationship choices. Finally, defenses negatively impact interpersonal relationships, particularly with one’s romantic partner or one’s children. They contribute to a misreading of people’s intentions and a general mis-attunement to others. A person can’t be innocently defended. Being defended not only hurts you, but it also hurts others, particularly those closest to you….

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What Does It Mean to Be Feminine or Masculine?

…ereotypes, women were not found to be significantly more intimate in their relationships, and science inclination did not overwhelmingly favor men. And masculinity and femininity, the study found, “are not all-or-nothing traits…they are truly a continuum.” How does a person live within a culture that espouses to specific views of masculinity and femininity? Getting back to the original questions, I think that it is harmful to think of yourself in…

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How to Heal Trauma or Just Get Unstuck with EMDR

…EMDR phases 3 – 8 with someone who has yet to experience a safe, trusting relationship. Without sobriety and trust between client and therapist, it is not reasonable to expect 1) that EMDR will work, or more importantly, that 2) EMDR processing will be in the best interest of the patient’s wellbeing. You must remain in phase 1 and 2 of the EMDR model until safety and stabilization, including emotional regulation can occur. This is why a trauma-in…

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The Impact of Death on our Everyday Lives

…ecame involved with a wild group of people at work. She was drawn to other relationships with a lot of drinking and partying. In spite of sensing that she was going in the wrong direction and maintaining a good deal of ambivalence toward Michael, Sara was driven to go in the new direction. Eventually she was in free flight away from her romantic love relationship. Worse yet, if this fear reaction were not dealt with, it might seriously impact her…

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A Happy Couple Makes for Happy Kids

…, and their relationship with their parent. Coming in 3rd in the list was “Relationship Skills” or the ability of the parents to maintain a happy relationship with their spouse as well as other people; 1st and 2nd were “Love and Affection” and “Stress Management”. “Here is what I think is amazing about that list: two of those three most important practices aren’t even parenting skills per se,” says Carter. It’s important to model behaviors that we…

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Breaking the Fantasy Bond with Our Mothers

…riend caught on to the way she was using her mother’s attitude to hurt her relationship and was able to differentiate from this internalized point of view. There is a way to challenge this fantasy bond with our mothers. I have known many women who challenged the harmful attitudes and maladaptive views that they took on as their own at an early age during painful interactions with their mothers. As they came to understand the division within themse…

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Why Relationships Scare Us

…a model for what we expect or, often without awareness, seek in our future relationships. This is because we learn how relationships work from our experiences and develop expectations for how people will behave. For example, if we didn’t have our emotional needs met as children, we may be afraid to trust again. We may have fears about depending on someone and having someone depend on us. If as child, a person felt emotionally neglected by his or h…

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How to Stop Worrying

…ies that can mitigate and reduce stress levels.” So, how can we change our relationship to our worries? Here are some methods to shift the way we think – our very own guide on how to stop worrying. Why some of us can’t stop worrying A 2016 review in Biological Psychology shed new light on why some of us are more inclined to get caught up in our worries than others. It explains that people who worry pathologically have an attention bias and are mor…

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Can We Change in Our Relationships?

…riences. This statement can be applied to all of our closest interpersonal relationships. Our ideas about relationships are formed very early in our lives. Our attachments with important caretakers create our “internal working models” for how relationships work. Throughout our lives, without even knowing it, we may act based on these old ideas, and many of our reactions in our current relationships may be echoes of the past, a subject I talk more…

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