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What Love is Not: A Proven Method to Make Love Last

…ared life, that joy can only be preserved when we recognize that a healthy relationship consists of two lives being led in harmony and not a single life being led by two people. Sharing activities, stories, friends, and children are all meaningful elements of a relationship. But denying the fact that every human and experience is unique is denying ourselves and our loved ones a partnership based on equality, reality, and genuine affection for one…

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How to Begin Again: From Wounds to Wisdom

…e earth, continuing to grow in the midst of difficulty. Beginning with the relationship with ourselves, when we reach down into our bodies, beyond our thoughts and beliefs about ourselves, and let our striving drop for a moment, we can breathe into what we are experiencing. In our pain are elements of heartache, a kind of mourning for what we could not do, and this heartache can then lead us to what it is we long for. If we can allow the qualities…

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What it Means to Be Loving

…y barriers we put in place that not only keep us from finding this type of relationship but from achieving it with the person we love. One of the reasons we wind up in less-than-loving relationships is due to ways we were treated in our past. We may have become familiar with family dynamics in which we were rejected or intruded on, in which case we tend to seek out or recreate these same dynamics in our adult relationships. To become more loving t…

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What is Your Attachment Style?

…ally limited as an adult and what you need to change to improve your close relationships and your relationship with your own children. Early Attachment Patterns Young children need to develop a relationship with at least one primary caregiver in order for their social and emotional development to occur normally. Without this attachment, they will suffer serious psychological and social impairment. During the first two years, how the parents or car…

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How Your Relationship Affects Your Kids

…placing on their children simply by feeling bad in themselves or in their relationship. Parents who don’t meet each other’s emotional needs frequently turn to their kids for support. Though, often unconscious, this places an unnatural and destructive burden on a child. When parents feel happy and fulfilled in themselves and in their adult relationships, they are less likely to pull on their kids. When parents’ own emotional needs are met, they of…

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Why Do Break Ups Hurt Some People More than Others?

…ent patterns might influence our feelings and behaviors in the course of a relationship, but it also affects how we feel when the relationship ends. A Pace University study reported that “individuals measuring high in rejection sensitivity and anxious attachment style experienced the most adverse effects to romantic break-up and rejection.” This is not surprising, as someone who forms an anxious preoccupied attachment is more likely to feel insecu…

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Home (not again) for the Holidays

…e dynamics of our original fantasy bond by re-enacting them in our current relationships, especially in a romantic relationship. We accomplish this either by selecting a partner who is like our parent, or by distorting them and seeing them like our parent or by provoking them to be like our parent…always unconsciously. Thus, we find ourselves in an old, familiar relationship, reliving the emotional climate of our childhood! Family is family. We we…

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Having Healthy Sex and Relationships After Sexual Abuse

…lop self-compassion, healing can occur. This is the road towards a healthy relationship with yourself, healthy relationships with others, and a healthy sex life that is pleasurable, safe and wanted. More Resources: Articles When Is It Sex, and When Is It Sexual Abuse or Assault? Loving a Trauma Survivor: Understanding Childhood Trauma’s Impact On Relationships How to Grow When You Don’t Like Change (Especially for Trauma Survivors) 3 Ways Healthy…

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Five Forces That Destroy Relationships

…s webinar is for you. If you want to be able to understand and improve any relationship, this webinar is for you. If you want to gain insight about a relationship that went awry in the past, this webinar is for you. Dr. Pat Love applies her 40 years of clinical experience and the latest research to this very practical, and sometimes humorous, presentation designed to make all listeners more informed and enthused.   Learning Objectives: Identify tw…

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A Powerful Way To Stop Projecting Onto Your Partner

…o say that our actions don’t have an impact. Of course, they do. But adult relationships are a hotbed for stirring old emotions and implicit memories. Our early attachment patterns are going to affect how we relate and what our expectations are about how a partner will behave or our relationship will operate. Just as we may project onto our partner all kinds of thoughts and feelings from our history, (i.e. She’s pulling away from me. He doesn’t ca…

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