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Six Tips to Keep Long-Term Relationships Exciting

…amas and keep our relationship alive. 2) Be Open to New Experiences When a relationship gets closer, couples often risk growing apart by closing off to new experiences or limiting each other in certain ways. Love doesn’t exist in a vacuum. We have to share time and activities to keep it thriving. Pay attention to what makes our partners happy, their interests, and be careful not to take actions that will restrict that happiness. 3) Show Your Love,…

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Five Things You Can Do Today to Feel Closer to Your Partner

…n’t talk yourself out of it, and go for broke. 2) Stop making comparisons. Couples tend to get into trouble when they weigh their actions against each other. In a relationship, it can sometimes be tempting to catalogue all the things you’re doing and your partner isn’t. For instance, when you start ruminating that you’re putting yourself out there or working harder in some way, while your partner is distracted, you will most likely pull back, and…

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How to Say What You Want in Your Relationship

…hat most people have an easy time describing what they don’t want in their relationship. If prompted, they’re able to rapidly fire off the many issues that they feel are creating distance between them and their partner. Yet, if I ask the same people what they do want in their relationship or from their partner, it seems to catch them off guard. The answer comes far less easily, as they pause to reflect on a question they haven’t necessarily asked…

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Keep Love Strong This Valentine’s Day and Beyond

…proven to make people feel good, whether or not they get anything tangible in return. Developing our capacity to be consistently loving is the greatest challenge to longterm relationships. Yet, the simple act of being loving can be the greatest foundation for a strong relationship. When relationships get complicated, and couples are at a loss for the convoluted reasons things have steered off course, it is sound advice for them to lay down their a…

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Selling Out: Compromising Integrity in Intimate Relationships

…cy. These two people who may have had a real chance for a long-term loving relationship have sabotaged it into a likely demise. It’s unlikely that people in committed relationship will ever be free of the things they want from their partners. It’s also unlikely that people will not be tempted to take advantage of each other when the power is so easily handed over to them. What is the solution? How can you stop self-destructive sell-outs when the r…

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Advantages of Dating After 40

…d was right. The man made her laugh, made her happy, and she’s enjoyed her relationship with him ever since, experiencing more emotional closeness than ever before. One downside of dating later in life is that we tend to use our negative past experiences to color our outlook on relationships in general. No matter how many “insensitive losers” we think we’ve dated, that does not mean every man or woman out there is another “insensitive loser” waiti…

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The Psychology Behind Strained Father Son Relationships

…ips with other men.   Deryl Goldenberg, PhD is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Santa Monica and Santa Barbara and has focused his work on Male Psychology and Couples Relationship issues for over 30 years. To learn more about Dr. Goldenberg, visit his website or email him here….

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Finding Love: Empowering Tools to Help You Find the Relationship You Want

…arly attachment patterns can offer us incredible insight into the types of relationships and relationship partners we’re drawn to choose and create. It can help explain why we’re so stuck on that one person who just won’t open up and give us what we want or why we lose interest the minute someone starts to really want something from us. This awareness orients us to make better choices, stick out challenges, and form more secure attachments. Learn…

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Are You the Pursuer or the Distancer in Your Relationship?

…ttern as a kid, which can evolve into a dismissive attachment in our adult relationships. In a relationship, we may have the tendency to emotionally distance ourselves from our partner. We may seek out isolation or be pseudo-independent. We may be overly focused on ourselves and meeting our own needs. Our partner may see us as emotionally unavailable. We may avoid certain levels of intimacy or seem aloof in ways that frustrate or alienate our part…

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How Your Critical Inner Voice Gets in the Way of Love

…p a chance to develop.” And he does. The critical inner voice attacks your relationship. The critical inner voice slams your relationship. What about the woman who has the fleeting thought, “Maybe we’re being too affectionate.” When she starts to feel self-conscious and hold back her affection, she decides to translate this thought into the critical inner voice as a “you” statement, You two are being too affectionate. She continues, You’re all ove…

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