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How to Go “All in” in a Relationship

In this Webinar: 

  • Gain insight into the psychological defenses that keep people guarded against love
  • Understand common fears around intimacy and techniques to overcome these fears
  • Get to know a “critical inner voice” that fosters distance in close relationships
  • Explore how early attachment patterns influence adult romantic relationships
  • Recognize elements of a “fantasy bond” in relationships that diminish real feelings of love
  • Learn powerful tools to challenge defenses and grow one’s capacity for closeness

Many people avoid going “all in” in a relationship for fear of losing themselves. Yet, maintaining individuality and avoiding a fantasy of connection is actually one of the most powerful ways to keep love alive. When it comes to lively and lasting love, the real reasons people avoid closeness often come from within. Upon exploration, many people learn that all the pushing and pulling they do in their romantic lives often has less to do with their present circumstances and more to do with their personal story.

This webinar with Dr. Lisa Firestone will explore how early defense systems and adaptations help shape how people relate in their romantic lives. She will describe unhealthy thought processes and behavior patterns that create distance in couple relationships. Finally, she will illustrate how individuals can start to let down their guard and let someone in without feeling like they’re giving up or losing important aspects of who they are. Taking this curious, compassionate, and introspective approach to love and connection helps ensure that each person in a relationship (and the relationship itself) continues to grow and thrive.



Learning Objectives:

  1. Recognize how methods or defenses formed to deal with pain and anxiety in childhood later come to hinder people as adults in their ability to develop and sustain close relationships
  2. Summarize the concept of the fantasy bond, an imaginary connection formed with their partner that relieves anxiety, yet leads to deterioration in relating
  3. Apply the techniques of Voice Therapy to help people identify and challenge negative thoughts toward themselves and their partner
  4. Describe how early attachment patterns inform interpersonal relationships



Ordering Information

Once payment is received, you will be e-mailed a full video recording of this Webinar along with all presentation materials.

Optional 1.5 CEs may be purchased through R. Cassidy Seminars. A link to purchase CE credits will be included in the email containing all your Webinar resourcesMore Info Here

Continuing Education Information

Optional CEs (1.5) may be purchased through R. Cassidy Seminars. A link to purchase CE credits will be included in the email containing all your Webinar resources. More Info Here

This event is co-sponsored by R. Cassidy Seminars.  A link to purchase CE credits will be provided to all Webinar registrants.

Satisfactory Completion

Participants must have paid tuition fee, signed in, attended the entire seminar, completed any accompanying reading assignment, completed an evaluation, and signed out in order to receive a certificate. Failure to sign in or out will result in forfeiture of credit for the entire course. No exceptions will be made. Partial credit is not available.


Cassidy Seminars is approved by the American Psychological Association (APA) to offer continuing education for psychologists. R. Cassidy Seminars maintains responsibility for this program.

Social Workers

Cassidy Seminars, ACE provider #1082 is approved as a provider for social work continuing education by the Association of Social Work Boards (ASWB) www.aswb.org, through the Approved Continuing Education (ACE) Program. Approval Period: April 15, 2012-April 15, 2015. R. Cassidy Seminars maintains responsibility for the program. Social workers should contact their regulatory board to determine course approval. Social workers will receive 1.5 live or 2 homestudy continuing education (clinical, social work ethics) clock hours in participating in this course.

Please Note: Licensing Boards change regulations often and while we attempt to stay abreast of their most recent changes, if you have questions or concerns about this course meeting your specific board’s approval, we recommend you contact your board directly to obtain a ruling.

Note: Many state boards accept offerings accredited by national or other state organizations. If your state is not listed, please check with your professional licensing board to determine whether the accreditations listed are accepted.

About the Presenter

Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. Dr. Lisa Firestone is the Director of Research and Education at The Glendon Association. An accomplished and much requested lecturer, Dr. Firestone speaks at national and international conferences in the areas of couple relations, parenting, and suicide and violence prevention. Dr. Firestone has published numerous professional articles, and most recently was the co-author of Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships (APA Books, 2006), Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice (New Harbinger, 2002), Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion: The Wisdom of Psychotherapy (APA Books, 2003) and The Self Under Siege (Routledge, 2012). Follow Dr. Firestone on Twitter or Google.

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