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Injured, Not Broken: Why It’s So Hard to Know You Have CPTSD

…ficult to regulate emotions in relationships. Complex trauma may lead to a disorganized attachment style, where you struggle to know whether what you think and feel is right or wrong. Standing up for yourself and setting boundaries may feel completely unfamiliar. It’s often hard to figure out who to trust — if anyone, especially in relationships. In the struggle to make sense of why life feels so bad, those with CPTSD often fault themselves. Many…

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Protected: Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Webinar: Video and Resources

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Are You Feeling Insecure?

…ldhood are anxious-ambivalent attachment, anxious-avoidant attachment, and disorganized attachment. A child with an anxious-ambivalent attachment may have a parent who is intermittently available but often demonstrates more emotional hunger than love. The child may adapt by turning up the volume on their needs and being preoccupied by a focus on the parent. They attempt to get what they need from the parent by clinging, crying, or commanding atten…

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What is Mindsight? An Interview with Dr. Dan Siegel

…their parents, we may have been terrified. And in these examples we become disorganized and our mindsight lens fragments. So in moments of stress we may literally disassociate the way we’re thinking from how we’re feeling. We may have different aspects of ourselves that get shut down and shut off. And in these ways what happens is we are fragmenting our internal world. For other children when their parents are a source of terror they have the expe…

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Avoidant Attachment: Understanding Insecure Avoidant Attachment

…p between the primary caregiver and the baby can create a secure, anxious, disorganized or avoidant attachment style that will form a blueprint for relationships throughout the baby’s life. When parents are sensitively attuned to their baby, a secure attachment is likely to develop. Being securely attached to a parent or primary caregiver bestows numerous benefits on children that usually last a lifetime. Securely attached children are better able…

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Exercise – Reading Between the Lines: What does your life narrative reveal about you?

…nswers to many of these questions were “yes” then you most likely formed a disorganized attachment with the significant adults in your childhood. Dr. Siegel writes of this attachment, “Its theme is something like ‘At times I fall apart, so I can’t depend on myself.’” Dr. Siegel makes the point that “it is possible to “change our lives by developing a ‘coherent’ narrative even if we did not start out with one.” To do this, a person has to construct…

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Can Attachment Theory Explain All Our Relationships?

…mind,” which investigates things like idealization, preoccupied anger, and disorganized responses as well as vague speech and insistence on lack of memory. Secure adults tend to value attachment relationships and are able to describe experiences coherently, whether negative (e.g., parental rejection or overinvolvement) or positive, says Main. Dismissing adults tend either to devalue the importance of attachment relationships or to idealize their p…

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6 Major Influences that Stop You from Becoming Your True Self

…psychopathology: Theory, research, and clinical considerations related to disorganized attachment across the life span. Clinical Psychology: Science and Practice, 8, 275-298. doi: 10.1093/clipsy.8.3.275 Edwards, V. J., Holden, G. W., Felitti, V. J., & Anda, R. F. (2003). Relationship between multiple forms of childhood maltreatment and adult mental health in community respondents: Results from the adverse childhood experiences study. American Jou…

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Are You Swiping Right on Your Attachment Style?

…sive. Psychologists have described these patterns as avoidant, anxious and disorganized attachment. They have also identified similar styles of insecure attachment that play out in romantic relationships: dismissive avoidant, anxious preoccupied, and fearful avoidant attachment. One woman I know was a self-sufficient loner who had a history of casual encounters and short-term relationships. When she signed up for online dating, her siblings teased…

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Understanding Fearful-Avoidant Attachment 

…characteristics of a Fearful-Avoidant attachment pattern Demonstrate how a Disorganized attachment pattern in childhood affects people throughout their lives and can lead to Fearful-Avoidant patterns in adulthood Discuss how a patient with Fearful-Avoidant attachment can develop an earned secure attachment in adulthood Describe how to help a person with Fearful-Avoidant attachment create a coherent narrative to form more inner security Order Now O…

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