Our Human Capacity for Emotional Honesty

Lisa Firestone:  It seems like part of what you’re talking about is honesty.

Carol Gilligan:  Yes, that’s a good name for it.  I mean emotional honesty, intellectual honesty, yes, absolutely, Lisa. That’s exactly right.

LF:  Because honesty doesn’t necessarily mean saying everything you think every moment but knowing what you think and letting yourself see what you see.

CG:  And discovering, you know, what you really think and at least knowing that.  Then as I said they you can make choices around when you want to talk.  But see, what is so interesting, and this is where I think doing work with children is so key, is that, you know, it’s in our myths like the Emperors New Clothes. 

Children have a sense of emotional honestly, which is why some people are scared of babies because they can read emotions honestly and you can smile at a baby but if they baby feels you’re not really in connection the baby will start screaming, you know.  Or children will shy away from people where they read, the person may be presenting as if they’re very friendly and everything else but the child picks up, there’s anger or whatever.

So as humans we have a capacity for that kind of emotional honesty and emotional reading of the human world.


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Carol-GilliganSociety, Relationships and Pleasure

In this DVD, Dr. Carol Gilligan addresses a variety of topics including feminism, patriarchy, relationships, pleasure, parenting, and psychotherapy. She dispels myths regarding feminism that have  pervaded both professional discourse and popular media for the past three decades, describing how “patriarchy  creates a rift in the psyche, dividing everyone apart from  themselves.” She discusses relationships and parenting, including the dynamics of mother-son and mother-daughter relationships. Finally, Dr. Gilligan addresses the dilemma of pleasure, stating that “pleasure is act one in a play that ends badly.” Emphasizing its importance, she describes how people often defend against pain by not feeling pleasure.

 


About the Author

Carol Gilligan, Ph.D. Carol Gilligan is best known as the author of In a Different Voice, described by Harvard University Press as "the little book that started a revolution."  Her pioneering work on women's psychology and girls' development led her to be named by Time magazine in 1996 as one of the 25 most significant Americans. Her books include: The Birth of Pleasure: A New Map of Love, The Deepening Darkness: Patriarchy, Resistance, and Democracy's Future (with David Richards), and most recently, Joining the Resistance. A member of the Harvard faculty for over 30 years, Gilligan held the university's first chair in gender studies; she is currently University Professor of Applied Psychology and the Humanities at New York University.ce.

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