grief

Dealing with Grief

Dear Dr. Nita,  I cannot shake the sadness of losing a cousin and dear friend who went out drinking and after an accident had complications and died at the hospital. We were very close and in my meetings, after the mention of it one time, I got no support for talking about it. I don’t… Read more »

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Mindfulness – Challenging the Negative Self-Image

Watch and read our exclusive interview with Jon Kabat-Zinn. A lot of us are caught in the story of ourselves.  And that story is often, as you’re saying, very, very negative.  And, uh, we don’t have to fix that.  All we need to do is acknowledge it, recognize it and then ask ourselves the question,… Read more »

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Mindfulness – Full Catastrophe Living

Watch and read our exclusive interview with Jon Kabat-Zinn. Another way to speak of it is ‘heartfullness.” – In all Asian languages the word for “mind” and the word for “heart” are the same words.  So if you’re hearing mindfulness as some kind of clinical, thought-based thing, you’re way off base.  This has to do… Read more »

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When Life Becomes a Death Sentence

My brother now exists only in memory, form and features erased from the physical world. I can hear his staccato laugh, recall his smile and remember the tone and cadence of his voice, but I cannot touch him, squeeze his shoulders or even give him a friendly jab on the arm. I cannot ask him… Read more »

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Paying Attention and Living Without Regret

The news of Nora Ephron’s death as a result of leukemia was such a shock. I keep thinking what a terrible loss. She was such a brilliant writer and director. She was also close to my age – just one day short of a year my junior. We grew up at the same time and… Read more »

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A Tragic Loss Can Result in Unexpected Gifts by Madeline Sharples

This is the season of gift giving and receiving. And right about now I’m usually thinking about what to get, how much to spend, and how will I ever get it there on time. For a procrastinator who doesn’t like to shop, my season of gifts can be daunting. However, it is also a time… Read more »

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Comforting Those Who Grieve

So many people get stuck when it comes to comforting someone who is grieving. They don’t know what to say. They don’t know what to do. So they send flowers, they bring over a casserole for the already filled-to-the-brim freezer, they send a sweet card, or they sometimes just avoid the issue entirely, thinking maybe… Read more »

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The Gifts of Depression

The term depression tends to be slung about carelessly these days. We wake up in a funk, things didn’t go well at work today or we missed the most recent episode of Mad Men and we’re “depressed.” Technically, we’re not depressed. If we want to be nit-picky, we would clarify that we feel disappointed or… Read more »

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Gaining Awareness Through Loss

One of the saddest things I have read in a long time was this gut-wrenching excerpt in the New York Times (2/23/10) about a Haitian earthquake survivor: “Don’t cut off my leg!” Fabienne Jean screamed repeatedly as she was carried through the gates of the General Hospital here after the earthquake. “I’m a dancer. My… Read more »

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