fantasy bond

Daring to Love in the Time of Coronavirus

With people now having to “shelter in place,” couples are finding themselves spending an unusual... >>

How to Beat Boredom in Your Relationship: Drop into the Plane of Possibility

Relationships are naturally full of highs and lows, but perhaps the thing couples complain about... >>

Are You Addicted to Your Relationship?

We’ve all been through it: the incessant checking of our phone, the tossing and turning... >>

Beware of the Soulmate Myth

The Fantasy Bond Behind the Myth of the Soulmate I know people who say their... >>

Are You Expecting Too Much from Your Partner?

These 7 ways we over-rely on our partner can seriously hurt our relationship. When a... >>

5 Ways to Rewrite Your Breakup Story and Feel Better

How to make sense of and feel better about a breakup. As a therapist, I... >>

The Fantasy Bond in Couple Relationships

By the time they reach adulthood, most people have solidified their defenses and exist in... >>

Is My Self-Hatred Getting in the Way of Love?

The short answer is: yes! Hating yourself puts you directly at odds with someone who... >>

The Fantasy Bond or Primary Defense

This is the first in a series of blogs describing my theoretical approach known as... >>

How to Stop Fighting and Feel Close Again

Why is it that we fight the most with those we love the most? Is... >>