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5 Ways Working on Ourselves Can Benefit Our Kids

…children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you.” – Robert Fulghum A lot of people marvel at how parenting has changed over the years. Some mock how it’s become so much more hands-on and child-centered. “We grew up like wild dogs in the ‘60s,” joked Jerry Seinfeld in a recent stand-up routine. “No helmets, no seat belts, no restraints. Anything came to a stop, we just flew through the air. I was either eating 100% sugar, or…

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Getting the Love You Want

…onally familiar? In the research and clinical work my father, psychologist Robert Firestone, and I have done, we have found that people tend to recreate their past in the present. We often accomplish this by selecting, distorting, or provoking our partners to fit with old dynamics and reaffirm negative feelings we’ve long had about ourselves. Selection – Our initial attractions can be tricky, because sometimes the very thing that compels us toward…

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Mental Health Apps: A Therapist in Your Pocket!

…econd section includes two video interviews with mental health experts Dr. Robert Woliver and Dr. Michael Britt, both of whom have created highly successful apps. The third section includes a case study with information on laypeople’s experience using mental health apps. The final section includes a detailed resource list with app examples for a variety of issues, and articles for further reading. *May fulfill pre-licensing and/or license renewal…

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5 Things to Do When Your Inner Critic Takes Over

…s the book Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice, co-authored by my father Dr. Robert Firestone, I’ve outlined what I believe to be an empowering approach to combat this destructive voice on a deeper psychological level. However, we can take on this inner critic on a daily basis by persistently peeling away its negative overlays from our real point of view. In doing so, we can become more resilient in our fight to act in ways that reflect both our rea…

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Kindness Wins!

…fering up bad advice. This enemy, with its negative point of view, is what Robert Firestone calls our critical inner voice. It speaks the malicious language of our defenses, and what it supports is not our loving, vulnerable selves but our destructive behavior and attitudes. It comments negatively on our lives and condemns our actions. It picks us apart and destroys our confidence and self-esteem. And it undermines our romantic relationships by cr…

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How to Beat the 5 Types of Boredom that Arise in Relationships

…entering into a fantasy bond. A fantasy bond is a concept conceived by Dr. Robert Firestone to describe how couples enter into an “illusion of fusion” that places the form of being a couple over the substance of being in love. When a couple enters a fantasy bond, they stop engaging in certain loving actions and behaviors that show respect for the other person as a separate individual, i.e. listening, making eye contact, showing affection, supporti…

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The Many Benefits Of Self-Compassion

…d punishes us for our mistakes. This is the side of us that my father, Dr. Robert Firestone has called the “anti-self.” In my and my father’s work, we often talk about how and why this anti-self emerges and how to challenge the negative line of thinking it perpetuates, which we call the “critical inner voice.” One exercise we ask people to try is writing down their self-critical thoughts in the second person (i.e. “You are such a loser. You can’t…

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How to Tell if You’re in the Wrong Relationship

…rs are all characteristics of relating in a fantasy bond as my father, Dr. Robert Firestone delineated in his couples interaction chart, which contrasts relating in an ideal relationship to relating in a fantasy bond. Okay, now before you panic, everyone typically engages in some of these behaviors some of the time. We are human. We are flawed. And most of us, to varying degrees, are actually intolerant or afraid of love. As you investigate your r…

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Coping with Grief

…to do the same. If you’re interested in the subject of coping with grief during Covid-19, I strongly recommend this webinar with Dr. Robert Neimeyer. You can learn more here….

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Advanced Topics in Clinical Supervision

…lender, on the “Competency-Based Approach” and also includes an article by Robert Taibbi, LCSW on the stages of supervision with a review of the models of supervision. In the third section supervision is reviewed from a Gestalt-Humanistic point of view and from Dr. Gendlin’s Focus-based approach. The next section presents material by the Online Therapy Institute (OTI) on the rapidly growing field of cyber-supervision. The fifth section presents th…

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