…s. Yet, trust and communication are fundamental to establishing closeness, intimacy and real love. Your partner should be someone you can talk to, someone who you can offer honest feedback to, and who you can encourage to do the same to you. Many relationship experts believe there are times when honesty is not the best policy, but I strongly disagree. Even when “not wanting to unnecessarily hurt someone’s feelings” seems like a kind sentiment, it…
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…or each other. Watch a Whiteboard Video on The Critical Inner Voice Related Books: Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships Fear of Intimacy …
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…nd that the inner critic we all possess in our minds that encourages us to fear and destroy true intimacy can be just as savage to our partners as they are to us. Thoughts about ourselves such as, “I’m not loveable. She will never care for me the way I care for her” can just as easily turn on our partners suggesting things like, “He is so selfish. Why doesn’t he ever think of me?” These thoughts dictate our behaviors, allowing us to treat our part…
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…Watch this short presentation on how to create a loving relationship: Suggested Reading: Why You Should Be the One Who Loves More How Mindfulness Can Save Your Relationship Understanding Fear of Intimacy What to Look For in a Partner How Your Attachment Style Impacts Your Relationship Relationship Skills…
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…ings can spring from deeper struggles we have with trust, low self-esteem, fears of rejection, loss or intimacy itself. These deep-seated emotions can lead to a desire to control. Instead of exploring where these feelings come from, we tend to project them onto our partner and start acting out controlling behaviors that we hope will alleviate these painful feelings. For example, we may on some core level feel unlovable or like no one would ever ch…
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…nt. As the married couple leaves childhood behind, deeper more existential fears are aroused, especially when they start thinking about having their own kids and facing a future together. 4) Don’t Let Stress Take Over. The natural fears that arise, coupled with more superficial pressures to make everything perfect, can leave you in a high state of stress in the months before your wedding. There are practical concerns to consider on behalf of yours…
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…ice: $15 On-Demand Webinars In this Webinar: Gain insight into the psychological defenses that keep people guarded against love Understand common fears around intimacy and techniques to overcome these… Learn More…
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…losing them or the life we are accustomed to. It is better to face these “fears of intimacy” than to turn against our relationship. We should fight to maintain our feelings of love, even when it is frightening to do so. No matter what, we can only feel our own feelings. Being loving is the best thing we can do for our own well-being, because it allows us to feel genuinely good about ourselves. It is a skill that benefits us in all of our relation…
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…more freedom, increased independence, and open communication. Maintaining intimacy means breaking down restrictions and building up trust. It means staying close to someone without losing your unique sense of self. Here are some of the do’s and don’ts that help keep couples excited about each other and less likely to grow apart. Do’s • Hold on to your friendships. Your friends bring out different aspects of your personality that are authentically…
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…e securely attached, harmonious in his /her relationships, and tolerant of intimacy as an adult. In contrast, contact with an emotionally hungry parent leaves a child impoverished, anxiously attached, and hurting. The more contact between this type of parent and the child, the more the parent is damaging to the child’s security and comfort. This style of relating–excessive touching, over-concern for the child or over-involvement in the child’s lif…
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