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Why Layoffs Lead to New Lows in Self-Esteem

…conflict in relation to our goals and aspirations in life,” said Dr. Lisa Firestone, psychologist and co-author of Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice. “On the one hand, we have feelings of warm self-regard, and traits and behaviors that we like or feel comfortable with in ourselves. We have natural tendencies to grow and develop and to pursue our personal and vocational goals, …to be close in our relationships and to search for meaning in life. Th…

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Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice

by Robert W. Firestone, Ph.D., Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. Joyce Catlett, M.A. Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice: A Revolutionary Program to Counter Negative Thoughts and Live Free From Imagined Limitations offers means for dealing effectively with negative thoughts, attitudes, and beliefs that are barriers to one’s personal development, sabotage relationships, and interfere with career success. This book provides insights gleaned from 25 years of inve…

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The Inner Voice in Self-Destructive Behavior and Suicide

…nger and sadness provide them with tools to counter injunctions to harm themselves. This type of awareness is crucial in that it provides clients with a sense of mastery over behaviors they previously perceived as being beyond their control. References Firestone, R. W ., & Firestone, L. (2006). Firestone Assessment of Self-Destructive Thoughts (FAST) manual. Lutz, FL: Psychological Assessment Resources. Heckler, R. A. (1994). Waking up, alive: The…

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Combating Destructive Thought Processes

…vidual needs and priorities? In this book, clinical psychologist Robert W. Firestone sets forth his theory of the “critical inner voice,” a self-critical point of view that people have internalized based on hurtful life experiences. During a person’s most vulnerable state of childhood, the pressures of society and destructive interactions within the family can lead them to develop defenses, self-protective thought processes and behaviors that prev…

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The Inner Voice that Drives Suicide

…to evaluate the risk of self-destructive tendencies. First, we created the Firestone Assessment of Self-Destructive Thoughts (FAST), and eventually, we developed another scale that uses the identification of a self-destructive thought process to assess suicidal intent. This became the Firestone Assessement of Suicidal Intent (FASI). A 2001 comparative study used the FAST to identify suicidal potential among Pakistani and American psychiatric patie…

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The Act of Loving

…osing each other by falling into a passive state of fantasizing about being in love. Read more from Tamsen Firestone in Daring to Love: Move Beyond Fear of Intimacy, Embrace Vulnerability, and Create Lasting Connection…

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Healing from Attachment Issues

…On-Demand Webinars     In this Webinar: This online workshop with Dr. Lisa Firestone will provide tools to help people heal insecure attachment, resolve trauma, integrate their… Learn More 1. Create a Coherent Narrative Attachment research tells us that to break free of a cycle of strained attachments, we must make sense of and feel the full pain of our past. As Dr. Daniel Siegel explained in his book Mindsight, “The best predictor of a child’s se…

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Genuine Relating in an Imperfect World

…I finished revising and updating The Fantasy Bond with my husband, Robert Firestone. While working on this book, now called Challenging the Fantasy Bond, I became aware of what a delicate balance it is to keep a relationship real. In a romantic relationship, people have a tendency to either move toward idealizing their partner or going in the other direction and being overly critical of them. These reactions result from the unconscious belief tha…

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3 Steps to Sustaining a Loving Relationship

…ay misperceive our partner as needy, demanding, or controlling, and have a fear about being consumed or overtaken by emotional closeness in a relationship. If we had an anxious attachment pattern as a child, we are likely to have a preoccupied attachment pattern as an adult. We will then be more inclined to feel clingy, insecure, possessive, or fearful of rejection. In both cases, we struggle with differentiation and linkage. A dismissively attach…

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How to Help Yourself Through Change

…vailable and restrictions alter, many of us are experiencing a new kind of fear and uncertainty about what our lives may look like or how we might “go back” to some form of normal. Many of us are having to make decisions about going back to work, sending our kids to school, deciding what we’re comfortable doing and who we’re comfortable seeing. Even as we may feel hopeful or uplifted about the possibility of getting to a better place, we may conti…

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