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"Get by With a Little Help from Your Friends"

…his past year and of how the friendship and concern that have developed among these “dinner guests” is supporting each of them through these hard times. She wrote, “What will save us? I don’t know, but the one thing that helps, from week to week, is dinner with friends…We try to believe that, somehow, we’ll survive this present crisis. But for now, dinner together feels like our last best hope.” Newsweek, Nov 24, 2008 Just before Thanksgiving, Ali…

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VIDEO: Dr. Peter Levine on Sexual Abuse and Relational Trauma

…at’s harming us. So that creates a tremendous conflict. And I believe it’s critical to work both with the child, of course, but also with the parent. And even if the parent or family member wasn’t the abuser, they feel so much guilt and so much shame. Of course, the child feels so much shame. But one of the things, again, that works very well somatically — a lot we’re talking about touch. But a lot of times you don’t really touch, but we touch wit…

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5 Things to Try Before You Give Up on Your Relationship

…scared, we tend to pull away from our partner. We pick fights, become more critical, even react angrily to compliments or acts of love. More than anything, we start to withhold the traits that our partner once loved about us. We may stop being as affectionate or adventurous. We may resist engaging in activities we mutually enjoyed with our partner. Acting against being withholding means being willing to be vulnerable. It means engaging in shared a…

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Ethical Decision-Making in Psychotherapy On Being Moral, Ethical and Professional

…mponent of ethics — virtue. Defensive medicine often takes precedence over critical thinking, soulfulness and care. The moral life is not simply a matter of rigidly following rules. The moral life is a matter of trying to determine the kind of people we should be and of attending to the development of character within ourselves and our communities. After covering the broader concerns with ethics, virtue, morality, cultural relativism, etc., the co…

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Qualities of an Ideal Therapist

…ts are turned against themselves — where they are acting on their critical inner voices. They are sensitive to the wide range of addictive patterns manifested by clients and have the courage to help expose and interrupt these patterns. In an important sense, the therapist can be conceptualized as a “transitional object” in that he or she provides the client with an authentic relationship during the transition from depending on self-nourishing proc…

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Fear of Intimacy

…They can be immature, self-hating, irritable, angry, suspicious or overly critical. And regrettably these limitations tend to impact how they parent their children. From this less than perfect experience, children grow up with a less than perfect image of themselves. As a result, people arrive at adulthood psychologically equipped to survive in the type of emotional environment that they have come from. But it is a whole different world out there…

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A Horrific Event – What Can We Learn From the Sandy Hook Shooting

…d with preplanned violence. However this story does bring to the forefront CRITICAL lessons in need of attention. First, children who have difficulty with social engagement need support! The issue of bullying has been on everyone’s mind and a focus of attention in our schools. We all want to care for children. However, what gets identified by a child as bullying, particularly those with social and/or emotional developmental challenges, sometimes i…

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Psychoeducating Parents to Defeat their Child’s OCD Monster! By Jenny C. Yip, Psy.D.

…has a noticable impact on family functioning. In addition, families play a critical role in the patient’s treatment readiness, compliance, recovery rate, and relapse. Thus, consideration of the familial context, developing healthy collaborative relationships among the patient, his/her family, and the therapist, and integrating the family into treatment is vital to treatment outcome. The level of involvement of families in patient’s OCD varies. How…

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Exercise: Who Do You See When You Look at Your Child?

…you over the other? How does your child feel about him/herself? Is he/she critical of him/her self in anyway? Does he/she feel self-conscious in any situation? Does he/she ever feel shy? Does he/she ever feel afraid? When he/she has nightmares, what are they about? What are his/her thoughts about death? Write a description of your child. When describing this young child, think about the traits that you are enjoying seeing emerge in his/her person…

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Insight into Extremism and the Terrorist Mentality

…an unconscious level, there is also a self-destructive element based on an inner sense of unworthiness. Lastly, there are feelings of anger and violence toward the perceived threat from outsiders. I have developed and elaborated upon the concept of the Fantasy Bond as a core defense in over 50 years of working with schizophrenic patients, troubled individuals in psychotherapy, and groups of people concerned with developing more fulfilling personal…

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