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Video: Dr. Lisa Firestone’s Thoughts on Valentine’s Day

…d in … Read More » Advice for Valentine’s Day: Amplify the Romance in Your Relationship We’re all familiar with the complaint that Valentine’s Day has taken on too much of a material focus. And looking at it objectively, it’s pretty silly to assume that our feelings can be sized up in a dozen roses or … Read More »   Keep Love Strong This Valentine’s Day and Beyond The to-do list associated with Valentine’s Day typically involves flower orders, di…

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Overcoming the Real Pain of Break Ups, Affairs and Rejections

…at we all would like to give and be given as an ultimate emblem of a solid relationship. So what happens when this solid structure of personal and professional victories starts to fall apart in the public eye, and when a seemingly strong, successful woman goes from being envied to pitied overnight? For one thing, the climate of any break-up or betrayal becomes a breeding ground for an emotion that, when examined more closely, is a bit surprising:…

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Is My Self-Hatred Getting in the Way of Love?

…r negative identity. And we are very conscious of that anxiety. A romantic relationship is often threatening to a negative self-image. Some people avoid the threat by choosing a partner who is critical of them; therefore their views are harmonious. Other people protect their old identity by pushing love away. But, if we are brave and hang in there with someone who loves us, we can come to see ourselves through their eyes. It won’t be easy; we will…

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Living Life on Your Own Terms by Lisa Firestone, Ph.D.

…of stress and in situations that trigger primal feelings, in our intimate relationships, at work or as parents. When triggered, these overlays influence how we see the world, and how we see ourselves. We engage in behavior that is not our own, which can be destructive to our own best interest. Every one of us possesses a division within ourselves, in which we have internalized the point of view of our parents or those who took care of us as child…

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The Facebook Effect: Benefits and Risks of Social Networking

…e whether using Facebook or Twitter is good or bad for your mental health, relationships, and self-esteem. Taking all things into consideration, it’s important to determine your individual use of social networking and decide how it affects you personally. From there, monitor how you use social networking, when and how often you use it, and why you use it. You may find that regulating your social networking use makes you happier on a day-to-day bas…

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Making Sense of Your Past by Daniel Siegel, M.D.

…as children and an incoherent life narrative as adults. But if they had a relationship with a person who was genuinely attuned to them— a relative, a neighbor, a teacher, a counselor— something about that connection helped them build an inner experience of wholeness or gave them the space to reflect on their lives in ways that helped them make sense of their journey. They had what the researchers called an “earned secure” life narrative. Such a s…

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