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When the State of the World Overwhelms You

…motions overpower, consume, or debilitate us, suppressing them can lead to trouble (or oven-side panic attacks.) For those of us being triggered, we’re better off finding healthy ways to express our emotions. When we don’t allow ourselves to feel our full feelings, we can become cut off in other areas of our lives. We may start to feel strange, disconnected, demoralized, or dejected. We may lose steam, as if our vitality is being subdued. Our feel…

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Why Are People Afraid to Grow Up?

…and utilize it whenever they become anxious regarding their mortality. The trouble is that vanity and narcissism set people up for painful experiences of disillusionment and rejection. Attempting to maintain a superior image causes them a good deal of unnecessary stress and anxiety. Preoccupation with trivial issues and problems: The certainty of death can lead to a basic paranoia that many people project onto other aspects of life that do not war…

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The Scientific Approach to Keeping New Year’s Resolutions

…gh day. You did well yesterday. Take it easy and start again tomorrow. The trouble is, once we’ve taken its advice, the tone of our inner critic quickly changes: You are so lazy. I told you that you’d fail at this. You never follow through with anything. You look terrible. Just give up. You thought you were doing well? You’re fooling yourself! If we want to empower ourselves to make a change, we have to combat this internal enemy. Here are some st…

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Why Do Kids Get Stuck on Certain Tasks?

…attention, short term memory, or sustained effort. As a result, they have trouble putting the building blocks in place to move from simple to more complex tasks. Summary We are complicated beings. There are many components that need to come together to support the ability to get things done. This is where checklists that target outcome or product may run into difficulties. When a child resists or has difficulty executing a task, it is time to tak…

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Emotional, Physical, or Cyber: Bullying Hurts

…ndividual. The person being bullied may struggle with depression, anxiety, trouble sleeping and eating, loneliness, and decreased achievement in school. Often times, these effects will continue into their adult life, leading to increased drug abuse and decreased social stability. Those who are bullied tend to keep the abuse a secret, because of shame and embarrassment or fear of further pain they may suffer as a result of speaking out; thus, the b…

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The Problem with Overpraising Children

…to be the parent of a great artist to buoy their own fragile self-esteem. Trouble arises when the parent does not fully appreciate or realize the impact they are having as a lead influence on the person that child will become. While it may seem innocent in the moment, overpraising can have adverse long-term effects that include: 1. Feelings of entitlement When we overpraise or overindulge our kids, they get the sense that they are special — but n…

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How to Let People Help You

…just annoying them.” “Now, you owe them something.” “You’re not worth the trouble.” All of these thoughts are not real representations of us or our relationship with the person helping us. They’re just the self-denying commentary of our inner critic. Exploring our attachment patterns In addition to ignoring and outright acting against the advice of our inner critic, we can start to explore our attachment patterns and how they may be influencing o…

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Preventing Suicide: Effective Treatments

…l individuals are a diverse population with one thing in common: they have trouble labeling, tolerating and regulating their emotions. What Dr. Linehan found in her research is that receiving DBT greatly reduced the likelihood of suicidal behaviors. If we see suicide risk as a skills deficit problem, we can focus treatment on helping people to develop the skills they need to stay alive. Once this is accomplished, there will likely be other psychol…

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Insight into the Violent Mind

…eciating/Pseudo-independent” and included voices such as, You’re really in trouble now. Nobody believes you. Or You’d better look after yourself. No one else will. Or You were always a troublemaker. It’s always your fault. Level 4 was labeled “Overt Aggressive” and included voices such as, Smash him (her) if he (she) doesn’t listen. You’ll show him (her) who’s boss! Or Doesn’t that gun feel good in your hand? Level 5 was labeled “Self-Aggrandizing…

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Desperately Seeking Happiness

…t is human connection and physical touch. An Australian study measured the relationship between the health and happiness of almost 60,000 males. This study found that men who hugged scored above the national male average for happiness, were thinner and even wealthier than men who didn’t hug. The evidence is clear: more hugs equals more happiness. The problem is that most of us are looking for happiness in all the wrong places, chasing after epheme…

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