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The Secret to Staying Close to Your Partner

…This distance may be painful but also comfortable in its familiarity. For couples who are struggling and want to break this pattern, identifying the hurtful cycles we fall into can be paramount to creating a closer, more fulfilling relationship. Yet, this process of acknowledging what we don’t want can be the easier, first step. The harder, second step is to discover and express what we do want. When discussing his couples therapy approach in an…

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How to Fall Back in Love with Your Partner

…to really know them and love them for who they are. Talk personally. Most couples can get into a lot of trouble with communication, for example, by talking in circles with both of your critical inner voices at the wheel or by not talking about anything personal for long periods of time. Try to take time to talk about real things in more depth. Let your partner know what’s going on in your mind beneath any chit-chat or practical issues. Ask about…

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3 Steps to Experience the Perfect Imperfect Moment

…uples, who spend as much time obsessing over their relationship as they do experiencing their relationship. This wouldn’t necessarily be a bad thing if these thoughts were kind, compassionate and introspective. Instead, they are harsh, cold and critical. The demanding attitude we all have toward ourselves often divides our lives into two realities – what’s actually happening and what we are busy telling ourselves about what’s happening. People who…

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One Surprising Reason We Sabotage Love

…r own. This internal dialogue and the dynamics that ensue are common among couples. People even unconsciously seek partners with attachment styles that negatively complement their own. You can change your attachment style as an adult by forming a relationship with someone with a healthier attachment style. You can also make great strides simply by understanding how your past influences your present, for example, how your critical inner voice is co…

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What’s Ruining Your Sex Life?

…n relation to their sexuality. Talking openly in this way can benefit your relationship, but studies also show that couples who can get to be comfortable talking about sex actually enjoy sex more. Kicking your critical inner voice out of the bedroom may seem easier said than done, but continuing to be aware of your voices and how they affect your sexuality is something that can benefit you throughout your life. It can help you have more fun in cas…

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Are You Overthinking Everything?

…h Overthinking   Oftentimes, when people get in their heads, they get into trouble. A recent U.K. study of more than 30,000 people showed that focusing on negative events (particularly through rumination and self-blame) can be the biggest predictor of some of today’s most common mental health problems. “Time spent alone in thought can be positive – a rich environment for personal growth and creativity,” said Dr. Lisa Firestone co-author of Conquer…

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Dr. Pat Love Defines Four Basic Keys to Loving

…t of love and what it means to be loving. She discusses values in a loving relationship and offers tactile tips for couples on improving the quality of their relationships. Dr. Love also addresses the importance of equality in a relationship, sexuality, and what she has learned from her years as a couples’ therapist. Shifting her focus to parenting, Dr. Love offers her perspective on how to raise emotionally healthy children. “Parenting is simply…

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Are You the Cause of Your Jealousy?

…. In a blog I recently wrote for The Huffington Post on “sexting” cheating couples out of real intimacy, I described how the ease and accessibility of technology now breeds even more distrust and deception between couples. Email, text messaging and Facebook can be a perfect platform for forging new connections. And as the floodgates of communication open, the green waves of jealousy begin to flow. Jealousy isn’t something we have much control over…

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How to “Make” Someone Fall in Love with You

…d feeling close, but when we start to control and restrict each other, the relationship tends to deaden and even create resentment. We should never give up being ourselves in a relationship nor should we ask someone else to give up themselves. This means we may have to stop trying to control the situation. We should strive to continue to offer concern and support for the loved one’s aspirations separate from our own. Love thrives when two individu…

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Experts at Home: Dr. Pat Love on Relationships During the Time of Covid-19

…ntions in the interview here: Connecting and Reconnecting Exercise Handout Watch Now:   Subscribe to PsychAlive (it’s free!) to see more Experts at Home.    …

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