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Breaking Free From Bad Relationship Patterns



In this Webinar: 

    • Identify patterns of recreating past dynamics in adult romantic relationships.
    • Learn how early attachment style influences attractions and behaviors.
    • Understand how people may select, distort, and provoke partners to recreate old, familiar feelings.
    • Recognize the role childhood defenses and the “critical inner voice” play in relationships.
    • Break free of limiting patterns to enjoy stronger, more fulfilling relationships.

Many relationship challenges people face are based on negative prescriptions from their past. A person’s earliest attachment experiences serve as models for relationships throughout their lives, influencing everything from the partners they choose to the ways they relate to whether or not a relationship lasts. People’s brains are actually wired to recreate conditions from their early life. Childhood experiences help lay down neural networks that later lead people to stimulate a familiar environment. Especially when their attachments were strained, individuals are likely to elicit these same patterns from future relationships. This helps explain why so many people keep winding up with the same relationship problems.

In this 90-minute Webinar, Dr. Lisa Firestone will shed light on crucial ways one’s early environment influences their romantic relationships. Drawing on research from attachment theory as well as her and her father, Dr. Robert Firestone’s, concepts of the “critical inner voice” and “selection, distortion, and provocation,” she will  explain why people are subconsciously driven to recreate dynamics from their past. Whether by choosing partners who make them feel old, familiar ways, repeating negative patterns they witnessed or experienced, or playing out half of a destructive dynamic, people are rarely aware of the ways they create their own nightmare in relationships. Fortunately, by identifying these patterns and connections, both individuals and therapists working with clients can learn tools for breaking free of defenses and behaviors that no longer serve them and for making more conscious decisions about both who they want to be with and who they want to be in their relationships. With this knowledge, people can challenge deep-rooted patterns and forge a new romantic destiny.

Learning Objectives:

  1. Recognize how early attachment patterns shape a client’s adult relationships
  2. Describe how methods or defenses formed to deal with pain and anxiety in childhood later come to limit people as adults in their ability to develop and sustain attachments
  3. Observe the negative thoughts a person has toward self, partner, and relationships in order to provide targeted interventions
  4. Discuss how the process of selection, distortion, and provocation is used to recreate familiar dynamics from a person’s history

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Once payment is received, you will be emailed a full video recording of this webinar along with all presentation materials.

Optional CEs (2) may be purchased through R. Cassidy Seminars. A link to purchase CE Credits will be included in the email containing all your webinar resourcesMore Info Here

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Optional CEs (2) may be purchased through R. Cassidy Seminars. A link to purchase CE Credits will be included in the email containing all your webinar resourcesMore Info Here

About the Presenter

Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. Dr. Lisa Firestone is the Director of Research and Education at The Glendon Association. An accomplished and much requested lecturer, Dr. Firestone speaks at national and international conferences in the areas of couple relations, parenting, and suicide and violence prevention. Dr. Firestone has published numerous professional articles, and most recently was the co-author of Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships (APA Books, 2006), Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice (New Harbinger, 2002), Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion: The Wisdom of Psychotherapy (APA Books, 2003) and The Self Under Siege (Routledge, 2012). Follow Dr. Firestone on Twitter or Google.

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Irma M. Eversole Towe

Hello my name it’s Marissa and I been in a relationship with my husband for 33 year’s. Through the years I encountered many heartaches..But this last one it was the most sickly one. I found out he cheated on me with my son’s wife. Not soon after my oldest son past away. I don’t know what to think. I have told him over and over. I just can’t keep up with him. It bothers me that it’s no remorse in his eyes.the story it’s hundred page’s long. Because after my son passed away his ,3 year old was found with Cancer in the liver. Finally I can see myself thinking all of this non caring,non morals!!! Person and I look at him and I don’t recognize him anymore… Why?


What do you do when it’s not the husband cheating with the woman but telling you Lies about sports cards he received or bought once ago and forgot when it was 3 days ago and it’s a habit that continues throughout the relationship of 20 years? Is it worth fixing is this a big deal you’ll what are some suggestions the gestures? And of course I have other thoughts in my head now due to this and I am called crazy all in my head I’m the problem When I’m probably thinking these stories even though they may not be happening due to the lies.

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