A Webinar with Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. – Most people at some point in life are faced with the question: “Am I living the life I truly desire?” “Who am I really?” “What gives my life meaning?” Answering these questions is key to creating one’s own unique existence. These questions can be a cornerstone of effective therapy and essential to a person’s personal development. What each person must ask themselves, once they’ve answered these questions is, “Do my actions match my values? How much is how I’m living about what I want and how much is it based on influences from my past?”
Differentiation refers to the challenge that all people face in striving to develop a sense of themselves as autonomous individuals. An individual’s identity is continually affected by interpersonal experiences that are either favorable or damaging to the development of his or her personality. In order for people to live their own lives and fulfill their destiny, they must differentiate from destructive family and societal influences. In this Webinar, individuals and therapists will learn an innovative approach to differentiation and the steps involved in creating lasting and fulfilling change. Steps include:
1. Breaking with “critical inner voices” toward self and others.
2. Altering the negative personality traits that represent an incorporation of the aversive traits of one’s parents.
3. Identifying and letting go of patterns of defense formed as an adaptation to painful events in one’s childhood.
4. Developing one’s own values, ideals, and beliefs rather than automatically accepting the beliefs of others.
About Lisa Firestone
Dr. Firestone is the Director of Research and Education at The Glendon Association and a Senior Editor at PsychAlive. An accomplished and much requested lecturer, Dr. Firestone speaks at national and international conferences in the areas of couple relations, parenting, and suicide and violence prevention. Dr. Firestone has published numerous professional articles, and most recently was the co-author of The Self Under Siege: A Therapeutic Model for Differentiation (Routledge, 2013), Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships (APA Books, 2006), Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice (New Harbinger, 2002), and Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion: The Wisdom of Psychotherapy (APA Books, 2003).