relationship advice

Why You Keep Winding Up in the Same Relationship

If we were asked, as an exercise, to craft a personal ad detailing what we were looking for in a partner, it may read something like this: Seeking someone who is kind and patient, independent yet loving, laid back, yet energetic. Someone who is confident, but isn’t afraid to laugh at him- or herself. Someone… Read more »

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How To Tell the Difference Between Real Love and Fantasy

As children, we often form a fantasy of what real love looks like. Though we may paint a pretty picture in our minds, this fantasy isn’t necessarily built on the admirable qualities we truly desire in a partner. Instead, it may be based on gaps we hope to one day fill, mistakes we aim to… Read more »

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How to Not Lose the "Me" When Becoming a "We"

Typical relationship scenario: You start out feeling like the very best version of yourself that you have ever been and before you know it, you are digging around in the relationship looking for some remnant of that person you were when you fell in love. “Where did I put that person? Where is that “Me”?… Read more »

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It’s not you, it’s me: The truth behind the excuse

Anyone who’s done their share of dating has probably been on one side or the other of the It’s not you, it’s me routine. These five common words, which strive for compassion, in reality just leave our exes confused and puzzling over what went wrong. No one buys this explanation. And why should they? After… Read more »

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What Love is Not: A Proven Method to Make Love Last

Long have poets and scholars, romantics and intellects, teenagers and grandparents pondered the question: What is love? Yet, as we repeatedly find ourselves in the same relationship pitfalls, broken-hearted or fervently re-seeking that initial spark, perhaps a more beneficial question is, what isn’t love? As much as we as a species are capable of involuntarily… Read more »

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Making Love Last by Learning to Love

Look up the word “love” in any dictionary and you’ll find two separate definitions. The first: an abstract noun encapsulating a feeling of tenderness, passion and warmth. The second: a verb defined by concrete actions such as giving affection or expressing tenderness and care. The trouble with these parallel definitions of love is that too… Read more »

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Exclusive Interviews with Carol and James Gilligan

This exclusive video series features psychology experts Dr. Carol Gilligan and Dr. James Gilligan, who offer a unique window into their remarkable relationship and marriage of more than 50 years. Watch more videos from Dr. James and Drs. Carol Gilligan on PsychAlive’s YouTube Channel   Order the Full DVD Interview with Drs. Carol and James… Read more »

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How to Keep Your Marriage Close and Exciting

When couples first get together the original “spark” they feel can become the mysterious element that alludes them later in their relationship. While many couples call it quits when they stop feeling that early flame, some stick it out accepting that relationships change, and the initial excitement cannot last in any relationship. Accepting defeat is… Read more »

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The High-Conflict Couple

A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy and Validation.  Alan E. Fruzzetti, Ph.D. Relationships have the power to stir up many emotions. When these emotions become too intense or too hard to handle or control, there are therapeutic methods to alter our behavior and resolve conflicts.  By learning how to calm down and… Read more »

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Helpful Tips on Ending a Fight

There are things we can change in ourselves that will put a stop to endless arguments and pointless fights with our partners. Dr. Lisa Firestone talks about one of the best techniques for getting along in our relationships.

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