psychological defenses

Fantasy Bond 101

This month, I’ve been working on creating a whiteboard explaining the fantasy bond and I’ve... >>

Challenging the Fantasy Bond

In this blog, I am excited to share the introduction and conclusion from my new... >>

“Name It to Tame It” – The Deep Emotions Underlying Your Triggers

What triggers you and why? We all have those moments when all of a sudden... >>

The Destructive Ways We Self-Parent as Adults

The relationship we have with our parents or primary caretakers is almost never black or... >>

Are You Sabotaging Yourself?

Many people struggle with reconciling what they think they want with what they go about... >>

Staying in Love While Staying Yourself

A lot of couples talk to me about their struggles to stay close to each... >>

Denial: The Danger in Rejecting Reality

“Denial was a weapon; it killed truth, numbed the mind, and I was a junkie.”... >>

3 Ways to Tell You’re Afraid of Intimacy

While most of us say we want love, pretty much all of us have some... >>

How to Go “All In” in a Relationship (Without Losing Yourself)

As a therapist, I spend a good amount of time exploring the push and pull... >>

Defense Mechanisms

“When children are faced with pain and anxiety in their developmental years, they develop defense... >>