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The Effects of Honesty, Empathy, and Higher Order Thinking on Moral Development

…by adults, otherwise they will start experiencing fear at a young age. The fear constructs a wall within the child causing a toxic situation where they turn to themselves or to their peers to fill the void. So how do we prepare our children for success regardless of their gender? It is extremely essential for a child to have multiple positive influences (i.e. teachers, family members, and friends), but we cannot always control the actions of other…

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Offering Psychological First Aid After a Tragedy

…g.” PFA is designed to help people cope with the stress, shock, confusion, fear, feelings of hopelessness, grief, anger, guilt and withdrawal that arise when a catastrophe has occurred. This state of shock in the wake of tragedy not only impacts people’s long-term psychological stability, but their short term well-being. They may start replaying horrid scenes in their heads or scaring themselves over potential threats and unlikely dangers. Getting…

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Working Behind the Wall: Mental Health of Correctional-Based Staff

…ivity, the officers, the safety of the building, everything. There is also fear in this work. Fear is a natural part of the correctional system. It has always been my belief that law enforcement and first responders are super human. Our instinct when faced with danger is to run from it. Yet, these individuals run toward it. They run in with trained minds and lose their fears, while running. At least, that is what it looks like to an outside observ…

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Social Anxiety Disorder

…or performing in front of a crowd. The reason they struggle is based on a fear of failure and a lack of self-confidence, which ultimately makes it difficult for the child to develop assertiveness. What are the symptoms of anxiety? A child suffering from Social Anxiety Disorder may find it impossible to participate in some of the same activities as their peers because they are driven by their fear of rejection. They will generally try to avoid the…

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Psychoeducating Parents to Defeat their Child’s OCD Monster! By Jenny C. Yip, Psy.D.

…baby steps. Sometimes it is impractical or impossible to create the actual feared situation, for example, the fear of developing a disease or losing a loved one. In these situations we utilize imaginal exposures, which involve prolonged and repeated visualizations of the feared image or situation along with the experience of anxiety. Variations of different scripts of imagery tapes are made and tailored to the individual’s needs and fear structure…

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Challenging the Fantasy Bond: A Search for Personal Identity and Freedom

…intimate partners, and social groups. In Challenging the Fantasy Bond, Dr. Firestone presents his latest thoughts and observations about the self-defeating aspects of this process and places the original concepts in the broader context of his overall theoretical approach, Separation Theory. Compelling case studies illustrate how the critical inner voice causes considerable pain and discomfort and interferes with intimacy. These case studies demons…

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Mindsight: The Unexpected Value of Getting to Know Yourself

…ch two people create that beautiful resonant sense of becoming a ‘we.’ The intimacy that blossoms can be amazing, but the journey to get there and remain there can be rough. To become linked as a ‘we,’ a couple needs also to become differentiated as two ‘me’s.’” To illustrate this point, he describes the process of losing one’s identity in a couple relationship as forming a smoothie, whereas when each person brings their individuality to their uni…

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How is CPTSD Different from PTSD?

…survival. Responses involve a range of possible emotions including intense fear, helplessness, horror, disempowerment, anger or rage Shame/guilt/”badness”/embarrassment Grief/Bereavement Yes, you can reclaim your life after trauma! Trauma survivors don’t always know there is another way to experience life than to battle fear and symptoms every day. They may need to learn that in adulthood they can heal, nurture themselves with compassion, or even…

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These Invisible Memories Shape Our Lives

…nsformation, and it is something every one of us can do for ourselves. You can learn more about the role of implicit memory and how to form a coherent narrative in the eCourse with Lisa Firestone and Daniel Siegel, “Making Sense of Your Life: Understanding Your Past to Liberate Your Present and Empower Your Future.”…

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Becoming Your Real Self: Shedding the Baggage of Your Past

…It means no longer having to be self-protective, or to avoid feelings for fear they would be overwhelming. It means recognizing that you are now an independent adult who has little to fear from others and who can tolerate strong emotions. The fourth step in differentiation involves developing your own moral compass, value system, and meaning in your life. What are your real beliefs and values? Are you living according to those values and with int…

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