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Helping Children Thrive: How I Spoke Up for One Little Girl

…tions are sometimes known by other names like GAL (for Guardian ad Litem), Voices for Children, or Child Advocates. In all these places, CASA volunteers are making significant differences in the lives of the children they advocate for. National studies show that children who have CASA or GAL volunteers spend less time in foster care – an average of eight months less than kids who don’t have advocates. They are more likely to be adopted and half as…

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What Goes On in the Mind of Your Therapist?

…unique glimpse into the mind of the therapist, Overcoming the Destructive Inner Voice. In it, he tells true stories of working with patients in therapy and their process of transformation. In his introduction, he wrote, “Psychotherapy represents a powerful personal interaction and a unique human relationship in which a trained person attempts to render assistance to another person by both suspending and extending him-or herself.” The goal of the…

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Coping with the Economic Crisis: Story from a PsychAlive Member

…re the burden of this painful reality, it is essential not to indulge in a critical voice inside that tells us that we ourselves have lost any value. The human spirit is the one commodity that does not decline in worth. We can grow richer, and by growing richer, succeed on a level we may never have had we not known this struggle. Only with this mentality can we lift ourselves, and one another, out of this crisis and maybe even come out a little ta…

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It Is Immoral To Stop People From Loving You

…es and I have developed a powerful therapy technique, which we refer to as Voice Therapy, to identify and challenge negative or unethical behavior in interpersonal relationships. The procedures identify the source of most personal problems by revealing a partially conscious system of self critical and hostile attitudes that people harbor towards themselves and others. In this therapy, clients learn to recognize their negative internal dialogue, an…

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Bullying and Beyond: How to Stop Violent Behavior

…ow what to do when someone does become violent. Standing up to violence is critical to breaking the pattern and preventing future outbursts. If someone is threatening you with violence, it is important to remain calm and confident in the face of fear. Take a deep breath and stand up tall, maintain eye-contact and speak with a calm and assertive voice. Do not engage in any argument and avoid making threats, using provocative language and name-calli…

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Why You Keep Winding Up in the Same Relationship

…rol. Her husband felt victimized by her demanding patterns, but refused to voice his opinions. Even when we choose partners who complement us positively, we run the risk of eventually distorting them or provoking them to become someone who we are less compatible with. This is often not the case when we first get involved with someone. In the beginning of a relationship, we naturally step out of our comfort zones, forcing ourselves outside our own…

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Why Going Back Home Can Leave Us Feeling Lost

…and laid back people with little to say in the way of anything negative or critical. Yet several times during the visit, he noticed my friend’s voice take on an uncharacteristically high-pitched tone, as she’d defensively react to what seemed to him rather innocent comments from her parents. When he mentioned this observation on the drive home, my friend was puzzled by how much his impression and the things he recounted her saying sounded like her…

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How to Begin Again: From Wounds to Wisdom

…le to prepare myself immediately prior to speaking, as I normally do. with voice and body exercises. In the end, my talk was slow and broken as I checked my notes to find my way, and I took twice as long as I should have. My perception was that I had failed. And my failing was not in the quiet of my personal life, but right there in front of an audience, witnessed by colleagues. Though I had received positive comments after the talk, my expectatio…

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avoidant attachment

Do You or Your Partner Have an Avoidant Attachment Pattern?

…n for our psychological survival. We should start to challenge a “critical inner voice” that may tell us we are “worthless and unimportant” or that our feelings and wants are “too much.” On PsychAlive.org, I’m teaching a two-part Webinar on “Developing Secure Attachment” that will introduce empowering tools to make sense of our attachment patterns and start to develop more inner security. Whatever way we choose to go about it, there is incredible…

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Understanding Fearful-Avoidant Attachment 

…w you behave)? Techniques to break free from negative cycles, develop more inner security, and achieve closer, more fulfilling relationships Tools to calm down in times of stress Learning Objectives: List the common characteristics of a Fearful-Avoidant attachment pattern Demonstrate how a Disorganized attachment pattern in childhood affects people throughout their lives and can lead to Fearful-Avoidant patterns in adulthood Discuss how a patient…

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