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What You Can Do to Save a Life from Suicide

…rning signs of suicide as well as the helper tasks that can save a life. In addition, Dr. Firestone will shed light on what goes on in the mind of someone who is experiencing self-destructive thoughts and will explain steps people can take to stand up to this “critical inner voice” that drives the suicidal state. While it can feel scary to talk about suicide, we must not hesitate to be the one to reach out when someone is in crisis. The suicidal s…

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Understanding Attachment: A Webinar Series

…ionships Offer techniques to break free from negative cycles, develop more inner security, and achieve closer, more fulfilling relationships Teach tools to calm down and relieve anxiety that arises in relationships Order Now   Session 4: Understanding Fearful-Avoidant Attachment – CE Webinar This webinar will: Define Fearful-Avoidant Attachment and explain how this pattern develops Illustrate the impact this attachment pattern has on relationships…

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9 Signs You Need Better Self-Care and May Be a Trauma Survivor

…an illness, including a mental health condition Bullying Trauma makes the inner world too uncomfortable and chaotic to hold with curious awareness. Feeling alone with intense fear and anxiety triggers the urgent need to protect one’s self. Instead, a person seeks to escape overwhelming feelings, because there’s no way to explore them safely. Trauma survivors learn to adapt. They develop responses that may seem like self-care, but are actually cop…

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Time-Suckers: How to Turn the Tables on Demanding People and Circumstances

…of my energy whenever I need it… First of my own personal requirements is inner calm. This, I think, is an essential. One of the secrets of using your time well is to gain a certain ability to maintain peace within yourself so that much can go on around you and you can stay calm inside… I have learned that the ability to attain this inner calm, regardless of outside turmoil, is a kind of strength. It saves an immense amount of wear and tear on th…

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How to Fix a Relationship

…help us stick it out in a relationship. The more we can live in the present moment, recognizing our fears, then choosing a different path, the better able we are to pursue our goals. In this same way, the more we understand our “critical inner voice,” noticing when it tells us to be afraid, to protect ourselves, or to push away someone close to us, the more we can resist its directives and accept the love that’s available to us. Read More From Our…

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What is Mindsight? by Daniel Siegel, M.D.

…e have it we can dive deeply into the mental sea inside, exploring our own inner lives and those of others. A uniquely human ability, mindsight allows us to examine closely, in detail and in depth, the processes by which we think, feel, and behave. And it allows us to reshape and redirect our inner experiences so that we have more freedom of choice in our everyday actions, more power to create the future, to become the author of our own story. Ano…

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Don’t Give Up Hope: Using Acceptance & Enthusiasm to Heal Our Troubled World

…esponded uncomfortably to her every time she was in the room. This woman’s inner pressure to do things “right” kept her from being fully available and accepting. The quality of non-judgmental presence was the foundation of everything. The details of the Kaufmans’ project with Raun were stunning and you can read about them in awe-inspiring, tear-jerking specificity in Kaufman’s book, Sonrise, The Miracle Continues. I will cut to the chase and tell…

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VIDEO: Dr. Allan Schore on the Role of Shame in Suicide

…ly regulate out of it. So we’re agreed on this. I think shame dynamics are critical in the work with suicide. And incidentally, shame dynamics have also been shown to be right hemisphere again. So here we go. Ultimately, if the baby goes into a stress response, especially if it’s going into hyper-arousal and then it’s bouncing down into hypo-arousal, you’re getting a severe perturbation of the cortisol levels. A very high level of cortisol. Well,…

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Addicted to Doomed Relationships?

…go along with it. The very first night, they got in the car to go out to dinner, and as soon as they got to the driveway, the husband hit the brakes and the car came to halt. He found himself literally paralyzed, as he waited for his wife to tell him which way to turn. Instances like these are indicative of a larger problem for couples. We frequently choose people we can depend on to fill out our personalities, then resent them for the very trait…

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What it Means to Be Loving

…elf-worth. One of the biggest reasons we shut out love is because we feel unworthy or self-denying. Therefore, to have a loving relationship, we must challenge our negative self-concept, or our “critical inner voice.” When we do this and take the loving actions that contradict our critical self-image, we enhance our own sense of worth and are able to get closer to the people we love….

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