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How to “Make” Someone Fall in Love with You

…er from the contact. Be wary of your inner critic. We all have a “critical inner voice” that puts us and our partner down. It’s like an internal enemy we harbor that just doesn’t believe we’re lovable and sneakily works to push love away. This inner critic offers terrible relationship advice, encouraging us to engage in hurtful or dismissive behavior, telling us to hate, pity, or protect ourselves in ways that don’t allow other people to truly be…

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Breaking Free From Bad Relationship Patterns

…familiar feelings. Recognize the role childhood defenses and the “critical inner voice” play in relationships. Break free of limiting patterns to enjoy stronger, more fulfilling relationships. Many relationship challenges people face are based on negative prescriptions from their past. A person’s earliest attachment experiences serve as models for relationships throughout their lives, influencing everything from the partners they choose to the way…

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When the State of the World Overwhelms You

…without torturing ourselves with destructive thought patterns or “critical inner voices” that coach us to feel helpless. There are real reasons to feel sadness, real reasons to feel anger, but there is no value in using the state of the world to remain tortured and trapped inside our minds. We are far better off getting out of our head, seeking connection, taking actions, and interacting with the physical world around us. If we notice ourselves sp…

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Fighting Post-Graduation Anxiety

…t doubting yourself and become self-limiting. You give in to your critical inner voice, the self-destructive thought process that creates nagging thoughts and doubts. This can eventually coax you out of taking on challenges and going after your goals. So it is very important for graduating students to remain calm during this transition. By staying calm, you can take power over your critical inner voice and be free to follow your personal goals and…

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The Ways We Lie

…honest with yourself. First off, you can stop listening to your “critical inner voice.” Shading the truth often comes from listening to an inner coach that’s not on your side, that instructs you to self-protect by telling you things like you can only be accepted if you say the right thing or don’t really reveal yourself. In relation to your boss, it may tell you, “You’ve been messing up lately, so make your boss think you solved this problem with…

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Living Life on Your Own Terms by Lisa Firestone, Ph.D.

…ognize and stop acting from the point of view of this destructive, internal enemy, the more ourselves we will become. Read Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice by Robert Firestone, Ph.D. and Lisa Firestone, Ph.D….

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Psychological Differentiation

…g these negative thought processes, which Dr. Firestone calls the critical inner voice, that are harmful or negative toward the self. Some of these thoughts may seem positive at first (either self-soothing or self-aggrandizing), while others will seem hostile, self-hating, paranoid, or suspicious. Once we become aware of these “voices,” we can develop insight into the sources of these destructive thoughts. We can develop this insight by thinking a…

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7 Reasons Most People are Afraid of Love

…lue and believing anyone could really care for us. We all have a “critical inner voice,” which acts like a cruel coach inside our heads that tells us we are worthless or undeserving of happiness. This coach is shaped from painful childhood experiences and critical attitudes we were exposed to early in life as well as feelings our parents had about themselves. While these attitudes can be hurtful, over time, they have become engrained in us. As adu…

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Stop the Blame Game to Improve Your Relationship

…my partner? Am I misperceiving him/her through the filter of my “critical inner voice?” Am I projecting negative characteristics of my early caretakers onto him/her? In improving any relationship, the focus should always be on empowering yourself. You can only change your part in the equation, but that gives you a lot of power. So what can you do to take charge and change the behaviors that are holding you back from getting closer? How can you ta…

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How to Stop Being a Victim

…can become aware of and identify specific destructive thoughts – critical inner voices – that promote victimized feelings; and they can take steps to develop more constructive approaches to dealing with their anger. Identifying Critical Inner Voices that Promote a Victimized Orientation to Life To move out of the victimized posture, it is important to identify critical inner voices that focus on injustices, such as “It’s not fair. This shouldn’t…

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